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nanny share in Putney - do I find nanny then a share-ee or find a sharee and then a nanny?

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SWLondonmum111 · 06/05/2009 22:24

any thoughts from those of you who have done nanny shares on what might be better in an ideal world? (I'm having second thoughts about the whole nursery concept and think that a nanny share might be a good compromise for us) Also, anyone interested in sharing/being a full-time nanny on a share, would be interested in hearing from you.

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Simplyme · 06/05/2009 22:44

I would recommend finding a family to share with then together you could look for the nanny to find one that suits you both and also then the nanny can see that she 'gels' with both families too! Plus IMO with the market being the way it is you will prob find it easier to find the nanny rather than find the family iyswim? Hope that helps

ChippingIn · 06/05/2009 23:06

If you can't afford a Nanny on your own (I'm assuming this is why you are interested in doing a nanny share, though it may not be the reason LOL) then I think it's best to find the share family first, otherwise you risk finding a great nanny then losing her if you can't afford to do it.

I think a lot of the nanny share problems arise when the two sets of parents don't get on well, I wouldn't underestimate how important this is.

Sort out all the nitty gritty details - just do a search on here for all the possible things that cause problems!! things such as which house and if shared who has more days (assuming you want ft care of 5 days), will you drop off/collect or will 'nanny' do it, who provides what (food, nappies, wipes), what 'discipline/consequence etc of bad behaviour, what constitutes bad behaviour (mind you, if yours is a baby probably not too important ), food (they need to be eating the same food, within reason), sleeptimes (and the importance of), activities etc

You can all have a say in who you choose (and part of the work finding one!! )

You can all get to know the nanny on an equal footing.

Of course, if you can't wait too long and have the money to sub it for a while, you could just advertise for both at once and see what happens, you may even find a nanny with a 'wanting to share' family near you!!

Good Luck!!

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