Childminders Club: Confidentiality

[lunavix]

Second question of the day!

What is covered by confidentiality with respect to parents/mindees?

Obviously (I hope!) we can tell people mindee's name, age etc

But what cant we talk about?

I have always thought it is stuff like behaviour rules and family stuff about them

Even more serious if you suspect abuse contact ofsted etc BUT not gossip about them at the playgroup

All my families come from DH school and so all know each other and so if I gossip about one then it will get back IYSWIM

On here is different IMO cos no one knows them

Mindee grandmother was talking to me about mindee dad {she is the MIL from hell} and she wanted me to slag off the mindee dad which I would never do to her!!!!!!!!

I just said nothing which really wound her up but it is NOT my place to agree with her in slagging off her Son-in-law {mindee DAD}

When I take mindees to local childminder groups, school pick up etc I tell people first name, age etc but would never discuss where they live, surname, any problems etc. Have in the past asked other childminders advice about something but just in general without giving names etc.

Yep - I'm with Feelingold, first name and age
not parent's village/occupation/age or childs behaviour/illnesses/quirks etc

But if in a group of minders the rules are relaxed as everyone is covered by confidentiality eg in my Network...which is where I get most help/advise (apart from here)

sorry what I meant was that I think the things like behaviour etc SHOULD NOT be told to others

I think I put that the wrong way round

S'ok - we knew what you ment

Thanks

Okay how about.. mindee's parents are expecting, mindee's mum doesn't work , is enjoying a break while pg. People are asking me if she's gone back to work etc, is it okay just to say 'she's expecting?'

For a general childcare policy of confidentiality, the rules are very unclear!

Lunavix - if i was mindees mum and anyone heard about my pregnancy via my cm, I'd be v cross!

Really? I wouldn't have thought it was an issue, mainly because if you look at her you can tell anyways. Plus if it was MY cm, I wouldn't mind! Spose everyone is different!

If it's obvious from looking, I suppose that's ok!

If it was early on, ie when it's still touch and go, and you don't know if they are telling people - sure. I wouldn't tell people if it was me or my friends either!

But I'd have thought that once it's blatantly obvious, then it's not an issue. Hmmm grey area.