advice 6 year old mindee and mobile phone long

[missymoo2411]

hi im a reg cm and have a mindee who is 6 and an only child and her mum lets her have a mobile phone which the mindee insists on bringing when at my house and takes it every were .well ive all resdy told the mum that im not responsible for it if she insists on having it all the time and to be honest dont think she should have it as the mum can contact me on my mobile and talk to her dd that way not a problem .so any way out on a trip yesterday and she left it on the bus but luckly we got it back as i live on the bus root so should i get mum to sign somthing saying that im not responsible if lost ,broke .and say that if she brings it it is put away till she goes home .or just say that its not appropriate to have it sorry its a long one help please .

completely unnecessary and I'd be saying on the days when you are looking after her the phone stays with her mother. whatever next eh?

If you are unhappy with the little girl having a phone you need to speak to the parent and say so with the reasons why. On the face of it this is a fairly simple problem.. I'd go with getting a signature absolving you of responsibiluty for the phone.

I suspect though that you think this child is very "spoilt" (The irrelevant comments about her being an only child seem to indicate this ,assuming you subscribe to all the usual stereotypes of only children) and that the phone is only a symptom of this. If so the problem may be more complex than what to do about the phone.

Agree with Ramon. I'm only a parent not a cm.

lazy .i dont judge any children in my care at all i have 4 off my own i just wanted some advice on the situation with the phone ..so dont judge me u dont know me!! but thanku for the advice about a signiture thats what i was thinking she is a lovely mindee an not spoilt .ramon and lljkk thanks thats what i was thinking as i cant be running around after lost phones with 6 kids in toe

Why not do what schools do and have a basket she puts phone (or other personal items, toys etc)into when she arrives at yours and give it back to her when she leaves? Infact, I've been on training courses where I've had to do that as an adult! Lbel it as her special box.

Label

In her box (or whatever) for the day

my kids have pump bags already for there things i could do this but she could easly get it out and mess like she does now and it tends to cause arguments between other mindees as they want a go and she doesnt want them to so id have to put it away in my bag or cupbourd .

If it causes probs with other mindees, there's your reason right there. In my setting, anyone who brings a toy has to share it with everyone, or put it away in their bag for the day. (Obviously not if it's a special comforter for a littlie).
I's be saying "the phone is causing upset, it has to go away!"

next, they ll come with laptop and i-phone

What I get from the only child comment is that the mother obviously worries a lot about her 6yr old because she is an only child, and therefore is her reasoning for the child to have a mobile. My 8yo charge got a mobile for Christmas and I swear it was attached to her for the first month and the only time either of my charges use their phones is to call MB to rat me out for forgetting to put veg on the side of their veg-filled cottage pies or if they haven't got their own way lol How long has your charge had the phone? Soon enough she'll get bored of it!

Back to the point, I reckon a disclaimer on the phone is a good idea and then put it in a basket but kee the basket out of reach so that she cannot get a hold of it during the day.

thanx pixi she has had the phone since nov her b day . she doesnt ring any one either her mum rings somtimes but not often so ithink out off reach and a disclaimer is a good option and ill talk to her mum about what i am going to do .so looks like another policy to add to lol.. thanks for every ones help x