Irritating things that employers do!

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Following on from "irritating things that Au pairs and nannies do", lets start our own thread fellow nannies!!

Let the parents know that what they do irritates us too!

Hmm... I think a thread like this might be best saved for NJ!

I'll start us off

Doesn't empty the bin
Doesn't wipe the kitchen side, put away butter/milk or anything else she uses
Leaves her shoes in the middle of the floor right in front of the door
Leaves bits of food in the sink
Doesn't put anything in the dishwasher
Tells the children they can do something when I've said no with good (explained) reason.

I get told off for apparently not praising people enough when they get things right. Nothing like a bit of feedback ...

saying thank you does go a long way

I do say thank you politely, but I think they expect more gushing effusive gratitude.

i worked for one family as a nanny.they had a 4 year old spoil child.they were very diffrent from all the other families that we worked for.

for example
the mother told me that her child have to have her afternoon nap for 23 and half minutes
i had to cook 3 diffrent lunches.One for child,one for mother(vegeterian)and one for father(heathy crazy staff) and i still had to make sure lunch was ready in 30minutes.
we never could go to have lunch with friens cos her mother said she doest want her child eating all that rubish as pasta,fish fingers,chips,rissoto and all diffrent things
i was never alowed to give child treat but mother was spoiling her all the time
i was told to never tell off child cos she had to feel free what she was doing so we end up having lunch and cild was farting and burbing and parents would just laught at her
i was told i cant answer my phon at work unless is neccesary.How should i know if its or not necessary if i cant answer
the mother would work at home but she wast even boher to come out of her room even she would hear child crying
my work suposed to finish at seven and she would always come late and try to have least half and hour conversation what did we do all day
never payed for overtime
when i asked her daugter to help to tidy up her toys she would say i supossed to do that cos her parent was payng me for that cos i was their slave
i had to always say the littel girl how preety she was
she would make sure i get my holiday pay when i got back from holiday even i asked her to pay me day before my holiday cos i was going away and needed money
her husbend had a office next to house
we had to make sure when his clients came there we had all the curtains shut and wasnt aallowed to go out just in case one of them would see us
he didnt want let them know he had a family
(so why does he make office next to bloody house and them we have to be like prisoners.)
i had to make sure i left work the time when his client were in his office
so if i finished work at seven(but mother was always late so i finished at 7.30 and that was time when his clients should turn up so i had to wait till they got in and i was free to leave which was aroun 8
then i got told i cant go to my sister wedding cos she cant afford to take that week off cos she had arange to meet her friend for coffee.

i think this was the worst job in my life.i stayed there for 5 months and was so glad when my fiance said he had enought.I was coming home tottaly angry and would take on him for no reason.he saw i was so unhappy.now i have family where i feel as part of them.i love them to bits.

I'm not sure starting a thread like this on a parenting website is particularly proffessional. I agree it may be better suited to a nannying based forum. After all some of these parents may be wanting to employ a nanny and I think enough people have been put off nannies due to recent threads.

Whinging about your employers doesn't give a great impression. If they do things that annoy you then talk to them and sort it out!

I would rather read about great employers. Obviously post if you have a problem that you need help/advice but not just a general moaning one.

mojenko, what an awkward family.

On the point about the mother working from home but not coming out of her room if she could hear her child crying, why do you expect her to come out of the room? Your job is to shield her when she is at work, particularly when the child is crying. And if the child is crying for her mummy, you should take the child out of the house instead.

You are at work and so is she. If my dd was crying for me and I came out to comfort her, she would get even more hysterical if I had to subsequently pull away to get back to my work. In fact, I try not to work at home if my children are at home.

Just thought I would explain that one. But the rest sound bad.

Quite right Ebb

I'm sure most people will have noticed that us regular nanny posters have not contributed.

This is my first nannying job and I haven't really got anything negative to say.

I think the only thing I've had trouble with is DB and me saying different things to J about computer time. I hadn't seen DB all week but I'd told J two hours a week on the PC for playing, max. Then I went to OH's for the weekend and J lied to his dad telling him that I hadn't set a time limit so his dad raised it to 4 hours. We spoke, J now gets 2/3 and time at the weekend

That and the pots and pans. But then I'm forgetful with washing them sometimes so they clean mine for me and vise versa if they forget!

My host family are pretty much awesome to be honest, I'm very lucky as I just went headlong into this!

My nanny families have all had their quirks and foibles, but then I know I have my own so it all balances out! There's so much stress and negativity in the world already, I would rather see a thread where we could all share the love rather than bitch and moan TBH. So let's turn this thread around and make it positive, eh?

I love my bosses because they respect and appreciate me for what I do for their family. After three years with them we have become like family to each other and even when I am no longer their nanny, my twins will be coming to stay with me for holidays, sleepovers etc. I devote a lot of time and energy to my job and the rewards are hugs and smiles and being told "You're my bestest friend in the whole world" by a scrumptious 3 year old Being a nanny is sometimes tough and takes compromise and patience and commitment, but even on my worst days I would never want to be doing anything else

So, after you've thrown up, please share why you love your bosses/job

Done with throwing up

I love the fact that I was chosen by this family even though I was nothing like what they wanted (a 21+yo driver, with a lot more little things) and that was because of my experiences of working at PGL, and being a paddler (two huge aspects of my life!) and the family all paddle and the two kids like PGL having been there once or twice each and me and 8yo A are always singing pgl songs and things, which really helped me settle into the 'normal world' again!

They're so laid back, and really fun people to be around. They don't mind my boyfriend coming to stay a couple of nights, which is amazing because if it weren't for their acceptance of it then we probably wouldn't be together still as we're in a distance relationship (he's off to france for 5/6 months soon ) so we only see each other once every couple of weeks, which was able to happen because of my bosses being okay with him staying in their house! And They're fine with me leaving early the next two fridays to spend time with him before he goes too.

The kids are both really active, thank the gods, as though it is more diificlt than "sit in front of the TV" kids, it's a lot more interesting! And their parents encourage it! And the kids do poi after I turned up with mine and they found it cool. J picks it up stupidly fast, I'm not great but I'm decent and he can do most of what I can do after a few practices! Cheeky monkey

& When I get to spend time with J (11yo b) we'll be upstairs on the PC playing Command and Conquer and whatnot which is always a laugh as it's something I used to love doing and don't get the chance to do anymore!

I do love the family and the kids are ace. I really won't want to leave but I'm here another year at the least, which is great!

that's great Pixi isn't it so nice to actually look forward to work, rather than dread it like so many people I know? I got talking the other day to a very rich lawyer woman, and she said she would swap her fat paycheque for my attitude and lifestyle in a heartbeat. It's so much nicer to enjoy what you do and be poor, than hate it an be rich! I did tell her if she wanted to donate some of her riches to me as a kind of karma thing I would be delighted. She hasn't taken me up on that offer yet funnily enough

nbee and ebb - couldnt have said it better myself - a thread like this on MN just makes us look very unprofessional

thats excalty why i didnt post!!

tbh if a nanny or a mb/db does something wrong annoying then tell them

neither nannies or parents are mind readers so if you have a problem about anything, then sit down and discuss it as adults

neither nannies or parents are mind readers so if you have a problem about anything, then sit down and discuss it as adults

BHMF you are right - though it does come with age and experience.

20 years ago I probably would have been on here having a moan but that was because I was a young nanny and didn't have the confidence to speak up for myself. I found the employer/employee relationship quite difficult - I wasn't long out of school and was still used to having to do what a teacher told me without questioning it.

"I found the employer/employee relationship quite difficult - I wasn't long out of school and was still used to having to do what a teacher told me without questioning it."

I definately understand that. That was the main problem I had at PGL last year, I was a complete pushover. Learnt my lesson big time after I ended up working 45-50 hours a week with nothing in return yet loads of others got off scot free (especially when the seniors started doing the rotas when the rota woman left, GR). I also let my coworkers tell me what to do. Screw that for a laugh, whenever I have troubles involving the kids I speak to MB when she gets home who will help me sort it out.

I am watching this thread carefully and will try and avoid doing anything on the list.

Pixi if its any consolation PGL were exactly the same when I worked for them (cough cough) years ago.

PGL are just idiots. I love it there but I hate it. I'm going back to see friends this year a bit, went last weekend and am going the next two to see OH before he's off to France (Lou Valagran in the Ardeche, the exact job I was after last year when I applied to NST! Jealous haha) and at the weekend I arrived and an hour later I was already being dragged to help with sitework by my friends lol

PGL don't care about people, as they can be easily replaced

Which centre were you at?

I was at Tan Troed - I drove past it last year and see that PGL no longer own it.

I was going to say, never heard of it!