Help with what type of help!

[magnummum]

Hi ladies - twins due beginning of June, dd. will be 2.9, DH works away at least 2 nights a week and we don't have any family nearby. So, I'm trying to work out what help would be best to try and keep me sane . I had thought about a post natal doula for the first 6 weeks or so but just wondering if I end up with a c-section for example I'd need more support and whether some kind of maternity nurse would be better (though for some reason that idea terrifies me - probably coz a friend had a couple of really bad experiences). Would be grateful for people's views experiences. Don't even have a cleaner at the mo which is something else I'm about to rectify as I can't see my feet let along a dustpan...

Maybe a live in nanny? if you have room?

i think a post-natal doula would be fab actually

You could always look for a maternity nurse that perhaps isn't as "traditional", I think more and more maternity nurses are opening up to helping the whole family rather than just with the baby. You would just need to make you expectations clear.

Also a newly trained nanny might work well as a mothers help kinda position, or a nanny wanting to go into maternity work may be a good idea as well.