if mindee has been a bit tearful/whingy/upset do you....

[popperdoodles]

Do you let parents know either in daily diary or verbally when they pick them up if they have been a bit tearful or whingy or clingy or upset that day?
I always do but feel sometimes it worries parents unnecessarily. I mean we all have off days. Parents often go all concerned and say "oh I hope he isn't coming down with something" etc and I reassure them it wasn't a big deal and they were fine generally. I then sometimes think I wish i hadn't said anything. Does that make sense?

I want parents to know that I will always been honest and if their child has had an off day I will tell them. On the other hand I dont want them to think it's a big deal.

I once did some volunteer work in a pre school and a child was crying at drop off time and parent phoned later to check they ahd settled. Supervisior said "oh yes he's fine, having a lovely time" when he was actually still crying. I know she was trying to reasure mum but I didn't think it was right to lie.

Anyway enough waffling, what do you do?

I always tell mine too, and if I had found out someone had lied about my dd, regardless of how well meaning they were, I would be very

I read that as misdee had been tearful.

When I nannied I told them everything that I thought might be useful for them to know.

My lovely childminder always tells me. I would rather know so that I can put her in bed a bit earlier if necessary.

It doesn't worry me, but I like to know.

I tell them for same reasons as you. If they start worrying, I reassure them that I thought I would mention it just incase, they just be overtired, etc.

Lying about child who was still crying has made me

I normally start the conversation with a question about how they slept the night before, which leads onto 'perhaps they are tired today, but ....'

I always tell them but Never use words like whiny or whingy I say fretful or unsettled instead or 'seemed tired' or out of sorts. That way I have been honest but 'whingy ' makes it sound like they've annoyed me ( they may well have done but that's my problem to cope with , not for the parents to have to deal with

I spoke to parents of one Mindee who is fairly new that she had been very "off" not her usual self, I couldn't put my finger on it, but also questioned if she had been sleeping OK or if there was anyting wrong. The nursery hadn't said anything, so it was passed off as a general "ah well never mind" Mum called me to tell me that she had come down with Chickenpox over the holidays - so my sixth sense was right.

good point teabagtea, I use unsettled or 'out of sorts' too

'into everything'

'full of beans' etc on some days too!

yes, i never use the words whine or whinge because they are so negative. i also always tell the parents how the little ones were during the day. even my 6 year old mindee.

i think it helps them on that particular evening with whatever their child may need or how they act that evening and i think that it shows that you are being honest with them. none of my parents think that their children are always on top form happy as larry without a tear or a moan in sight!

ps. i may or may not write it in the daily diary but I always tell the parents at pick up time. would hate for them to go home and see in the diary that their LO was not a happy child that day. rather tell them when you seen them, i think.

I agree about using the word whingy, just used it here to illustrate what I was trying to say iyswim.

I guess I just want to please and want parents to think their child has a lovely time here (which they do). But liittle ones can't always be on top form all the time can they.

Totally agree pooperdoodles, think its a tricky one.I did mention in a daily diary about one of my lovely mindees having a tantrum about sharing her chocolate but I tried to make it into a funny incident (which it was really)
I would tell parents if I thought the child was particulaly upset but otherwise I deal with all incidents in house so to speak.
Its like going up to a school parents evening and being told your child chats too much? I always say, well move them to the front of the class and make him stay in at break time.. you are paid to deal with that.. As a cm I am paid to manage behaviour in my setting.