How should I manage the settling in phase with nanny for my DS?

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My nanny starts at beginning of March and I go back to work a week later, so have a week (well actually just 3 days) to get DS settled. Our nanny is coming in today and next Thurs for an hour or so just so he has a bit of time to see her here before she starts, but I'm then wondering how to manage the settling in week.

I was assuming something like this:
Day 1: spend most of day with them, but leave them alone for say 2 hours in the afternoon between meals/naps
Day 2: Leave them at about 11am and come back around 4pm so she does the whole play, lunch, nap, play routine
Day 3: do the full day (8.30 till 5.30 ish)

Does that sound like a good plan or would you recommend something different based on prior experience?

When I settled in with a mum (I tend to just be dropped straight in!!) I helped mum for the first day (twins 11 months) the next day mum was around but I had sole charge - but she helped with tea etc as they were'nt feeding then the Friday I had them all day - mum was in the office then went out for the afternoon.

Your plan sounds good - are you allowing them to get out and about on the 2nd/3rd day ie trips to the park, toddler groups etc or would you prefer them to stay at home?

Happy for them to do whatever they would do when i'm at work really - so lunch/naps at home I guess but outing in afternoon be it to park or class or whatever.

Sounds fine to me, how old is your DS?

In my current job, I met the children briefly at interview, then I did one afternoon settling in (coming in at lunch time, spending afternoon with mum showing me where things were in the house and surrounding area, going with her on school run and then taking the toddler and one school child home while she took other school child to a music lesson) and one morning settling in (going on morning school run, taking toddler home and then to a toddler group). That was sufficient for me tbh.

all my jobs i am thrown in the deep end and i start and mb goes to work

a handing over period is nice, but it is also hard for child and nanny if mum is around, obvs the child wants mummy and not nanny who he doesnt know

but your plan sounds fine, though day 2 or day 3 would be my prefernce

you can show where thing sre etc on day 1

that sounds fine

IMO the sooner im thrown in at the deepend the better!

dont forget to show nanny your fuse box / stop cock / provide with key + alarm code / show how to fit car seat (if applicable) / where medicines are kept + thermometer, how your washern/ dryer / dishwasher etc work.

also maybe you could take nanny to local parks / point out lesiure centre / toddler groups / school / Drs surgary etc (unless she already knows the area of course!)

I don't want to step on her toes and making her feel I'm watching her but a bit nervous about what I'm going to do out of the house the whole time other than just worry about him! Not worried about DS as he is very laid back, and when she came for an hour today he was really pleased to see her. Maybe I'll handover on the first day then just go out for the afternoon and on the second day be in the house for a while but leave them to it (i.e. lock myself in the loft frantically mumsnetting...)

maybe you can go to park together? not saying you have to be out of the house the whole day, but nice to ;leave the nanny in peace

good thinking about stop cock nannyl - and def fuse box

we have 2 in our mansion, one for each end of house, found one but not the other and couldnt understand why lights still off etc after we had one of our frequent powercuts

sure all will be fine

TBH I don't really want to see her with him too much. I'm v confident we've made the right decision in picking her, so don't want to start seeing her cook pasta differently to how I do it or serve his milk at the wrong temperature or I might start getting all PFB

Thanks for advice ladies!

Very sensible - best to just accept she will do the little things a bit differently to you. You don't sound PFBish at all!