Was I being fair to mindee's mum?

[Numberfour]

Mindee who I only have on Fridays was off preschool for 3 days including today because of a bad cold and chesty cough. Mum wanted to know if she could come to me for some part of today. I said if she was too ill for preschool I would prefer her not to come to me.

AIBU??? Really don't feel like the whole of No4 household being riddled with colds.

YANBU as long as you would be happy for the mum to say she won't send her child to you if one of yours has a cold and is off school.
I'm assuming you will still expect to be paid.

for cough or cold, id have let them come..but thats me..if mum expected me to change all my other plans ie: not take other mindees out because of their child, then id have said no.

As long as you won't be charging

Well I think if I was that mum, I would be thinking in future I won't ask, I'll just bring her along!

What do you do if one of yours has a cold/cough?

I do state in my sickness policy that if a child is too ill to attend school or preschool then they should not come to me either. However in reality I judge each situation individually. If they just have a cold and cough and can join in the normal routines then I'd be happy to have them, however if they are really unhappy and tired etc then they are better off at home imo.

I personally allow them to come as long as 'they are able to participate in usual activities' AND 'it's just a cold thing and not a bug of some sort'.

I thouroughly agree with you Numberfour, bad enough the germs etc kids pick up at school without knowingly bringing it into the house. Number one priority for any parent is the health and welfare of their own children. Why would anyone want to put this at risk however menial.

If their not well enough for preschool on that day then they are not well enough to come to you!

I would still charge

we go out everyday and if a parent phoned me to say the same, I would refuse admission.

If the child is mot well enough to do the activities and such at Pre School they are not well enough tob with you, and if they were just brought along, they would be sent back home.

i would also charge.

it is not just your own children, what about the other mindees?

agree if she was to ill for preschool then too ill tocome to you,and yes you should be paid

If shes not well enough for pre school shes not well enough for you - and yes I would still charge.....you have an obligation to other mindees too

I really appreciate all your opinions! I hate making this type of decision.

I have had this little girl for nearly 3 years and am friendly with her mum who is very understanding. If my DS or DH was ill (being a mother I obviously NEVER get sick) and if it is something like a bad cold or cough and not D&V, then I give my parents the option of sending their child or not. if they do not come then there is no payment. if they do come, then payment is required.

In some cases i do close (I had bronchitis March last year) and then of course there is no payment.

I think that i will stick to the rule that if they are too ill for school then they are too ill to come to me and in that case i will still expect payment.

However, mum has asked me if I can have LO for some extra time in the half term break and i will offer to have her for a couple of afternoons to make up for this. The mindee and my DS are friends through my minding her so it will be nice for him to have a friend over to play.

I do accept children with coughs and colds and will still be open if anyone in my household is ill in that way. But if they are too ill for school, then no, I would rather they did not come to my setting.

If she's too ill for school then I would agree too ill for you.