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I need some help on writing my resignation

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namechangedforadviceplease · 04/02/2009 19:23

I am writing a resignation letter, my boss will feel it is totally out of the blue even though we have had "talks". Do I put specifics in the letter, (for eg I am leaving because there is a lack of trust) or do I just keep it short. Boss is the sort of person who will want to know specifics as to why I am leaving so will have to come out and say it at some point regardless.

Help!!!

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CarGirl · 04/02/2009 19:28

I would keep it short and just tell her that you do not wish to discuss your decision.

Do you have a new job to go to?

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namechangedforadviceplease · 04/02/2009 19:34

no but notice is 8 weeks - loads of jobs in my area so should be ok.

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CarGirl · 04/02/2009 19:36

I would just state I feel it's time to move on to new challenges, have you been there long enough for that to ring true?

Blondeshavemorefun · 04/02/2009 21:42

i personally wouldnt hand my notice in with having no job to go to

i have always 8 weeks notice in my contract, and parents will wait for you

my last job got a temp in for 2mths as they needed someone to start asap and they wanted me

but when you do - something like

I am writing to inform you that i am handing my notice in, as stated in my contract with8weeks.

Therefore my last working date will be xxx

AtheneNoctua · 04/02/2009 21:55

I would make up a positive reason for the departure... especially if you want a good reference. If you say I 'm leaving becouse yo did this and you didn't do that she is unlikely to have a warm fuzzy feeling about you when someone calls for a reference.

Make your departue as positive as possible, even if you hate her.

I just left I job I absolutely loathed. I knew I hated it when I left. And I took great pleasurte in handing in my resignation. But, still, I said I would miss the company and that I had many good memories and I would welcome a retuen some day. But, for now, I had a good opportunity that was more in line with my personal career goals.

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namechangedforadviceplease · 04/02/2009 22:07

Thanks or all the advice am so confused. What good reason could I give? It seems blatantly 2 faced though and a little insulting to bosses intelligence. I do like them as people and love the children I just don't like how I am treated.

The children are going to be gutted so need a good reason - I've been there for a year. I don't want to say "moving onto new challenges" as the children may think this is a reflection on them? They are quite insecure children and I feel will take it personally. Any other ideas? Also I'm thinking of posting it, is this a big no no?

Is telling the truth, in a positive way so bad? I just know I will be asked why I have resigned and would not feel comfortable lying and am too wimpy to say I don't want to discuss it. Job is part time and other half can hold the fort on finances front if needed.

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SmileyMylee · 04/02/2009 22:24

Definately don't post it. Keep it brief with no specifics. You will need a reference so you will need to put a positive spin on it. Could you say financial reasons mean you need a full time role,

What about looking for wider experience - different age group, special needs etc. etc.

Good luck.

CarGirl · 04/02/2009 22:34

I'd def go for "needing full time/more hours"

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namechangedforadviceplease · 04/02/2009 22:37

I work full time boss know this; work with all ages too. Gah! How confusing - so much easier when you work for a big company.

Think I might just go with original plan and hope it doesn't offend anyone!

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CarGirl · 04/02/2009 22:51

want part time?

Otherwise I guess just say that you think the trust issue is going to be a stumbling block and you feel they will benefit from a fresh start with a new nanny?

AtheneNoctua · 05/02/2009 12:33

Give a reason that will not offend her and that she cannot rectify. For example, if her kids are 4 and 6 say you really want to work with babies. She cannot possibly accommodate that because she can not make her kids younger. At the same time she will not feel she did something wrong.

Can you give us a few more specifics about the job so we can help you think of something to say. If you don't want to type it here, you can cat me.

elliott · 05/02/2009 12:45

Agree with athenenoctua - however much you feel the urge to just tell it to them straight, it is much smarter not to. 'discretion is the greater part of valour' and all that...
It will damage you more than them.
Far better just to let them know, in person, that its not the right kind of job for you anymore.
If they are not completely insensitive they may well work out for themselves that there are things they haven't done well...

CarGirl · 05/02/2009 13:31

want to work with multiples (or not)? Different location?

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