I am a bit hurt and put out

[inthenarkynonk]

I have minded a little boy for two years (except for 3 weeks maternity) I have changed my plans put up with late pick ups and payments, no end of probs, mum now expecting, she frequently refers to me as a sahm. Anyway i have heard through grape vine she has asked cleaner to mind both kids from her house, but I can have "one day so she can claim vouchers" nice eh? When I asked her she said she couldnt afford 2 in childcare ( I have offered 200 pound reduction and she is able to have three large v expensive holidays this year. Her parting shot was well if the worst comes to the worst you can have them while we look for a cheaper alternative. I know I should tell her to stick it but I do love her dd, I dont think you can not end up loving your mindees and I don`t want her stuck in front of tv while cleaner does her job, especially as she has a very large speech delay, which I have been working hard to bring her on.

You sound lovely and I am sure there are more deserving families out there that you can work with. I would break ties tbh. Shame about the little girl but that is life.

awwww - that is very sad just make the most of the time you have left with mindee, some parents just don't know when they are lucky to have a good c/m.

The mother doesn't deserve you, it sounds like she sees childcare as little more than a babysitting. It's a shame for the little girl, but try to focus your lovely approach to childminding on a new child.

I've met parents like that. With one family, like you, I also was happy to negotiate and offered a similar reduction in fees in the hope of keeping the mindee. They still left for a cheaper alternative. Judging by their Ofsted report the quality of service is reflected in their price.

Luckily there are parents who consider what they are actually getting for their hard earned £££ rather than just the total at the end of the week. If she does go, consider it a favour. If she stays, would suggest that the discount is only given in order to help the family maintain a full-time (or current hours if less than full time) place. If she wanted to drop hours, I would drop the discount too.

Let her go. Plenty more deserving fish in the sea. You sound like you ahev alot to give and it really bugs me parents who see their cleaning as more important than their childcare! If shes that skint - she can dump the cleaner who is probably charging £10 per hour anyway!

You don't need clients like her - let her go and advertise for someone who will appreciate all the work you do

Hand in your notice.

Work for someone who will pay you properly and appreciate you rather than treating you like a mug.

Gosh, INTN, you sound great - if you are based anywhere near the bit of North London where I live I'd be very interested in speaking to you!

Hope this thought makes you feel better

well I am not being polite, she sounds a complete bitch. You sound lovely and her dd deserves you and not her.. good luck finding someone else...