slight childcare dilemma

[tattycoram]

This could just as easily be posted nurseries, but anyway:

My 2 year old DS has just started at nursery, seems to be settling in fine, apart from the odd bit of pushing and hitting, which he has a tendency to do anyway, but has been a bit worse since the fortnight since he started

I am planning to work four days a week from March. His former childminder will do a day a week and he will keep his three days at nursery.

The dilemma is that she can take him now and I am not sure whether to change him to two days a week at nursery and one with her, or to keep him three days a week at nursery until March. I'm not sure if he will find that unsettling, but on the other hand he loves his childminder and I think he's finding nursery a tiring because he doesn't nap there very well yet.

Sorry - this is long, but WWYD?

Let him go to the childminder as much as possible.

Let the cm have him as much as she can. If he loves her and is settled, why change.
As long as she takes him out to toddler groups, he's getting the social interaction he needs, together with the wonderful relationship with his childminder.

Oh I know, had it been up to me I would never have started him at nursery (long story) We don't have the option of doing any more days with the cm. I'm just concerned that if we mix it up now before he's completely settled at nursery he might get confused.

Just for context the cm gave us notice months ago after DS hit her younger mindee. In teh intervening period things settled down but she had already committed to another child.

So really the CM wasn't able to manage your DS?
2 year old boys hit and push (not alll, but it's not uncommon)- it is thier way of communicating. I'm suprised the CM was so quick to give you notice.

Ooo that was harsh! Perhaps things could have been resolved without notice being given?

Understand your wariness now - and yes it does take a while for children to settle at nursery thats nothing abnormal. You would have to lose a day at nursery to give to the childminder to then try and get the day back again in March is that right?

I'd be inclined to book the cm from March and leave DS at nursery for now the 3 days seeing as thats what you need from march anyway.

What if he does it again at the CM's will she give notice again? I'd be inclined to have for the 4 days at the nursery.

He will settle, its all new to him at the mo but with time he will be fine.

Why have him at 2 places? The CM let you down by giving notice. Boys are rough but the behaviour should be monitored and managed.

I know, I know, it sounds awful. She was over-hasty, she is a relatively new childminder. However, in the three months that she kept him after that incident (last in a long line) he did really settle down and we have a very good relationship with her. He misses her and there and although the new nursery is fine I would prefer him to have a bit more attention - she would only have him and another little boy (the one he hit) who he really loves

Why are you called tattycoram?