CM Club Thursday 22nd January - i am opening the staffroom 13 minutes early as i need KatyMac!

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hello, i understand your oh is an assistant! please can you tell me what you needed to do to get him registered as want to get my dh on board! thanks! will pop back later!

I am sure that Katy's DH is a registered CM as well not just an assistant.

Morning everyone

I have my huge double buggy in the living room trying to dry it out as it is rain soaked! I leave it locked in the garden and the gale force winds had ripped the raincover right off so it has been getting rained on all night. Went to get my tatty marco sky - that was in the backyard - same state. Aargh. I hope my day improves!

Sorry - he is a minder & always has been

Morning all

There is a shop not to far from me that sells the buggypod so going to phone them and see if I can go and look at it.

Sorry wrong thread. I am thinking about too much stuff at the moment!!

Just got my car back from it's MOT and it passed .

So hot coffee/tea/chocolate on the table with lots of yummy cakes.

Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy BT are here putting in my line, another 5 days and I can phone Sky for my broadband!!!!!!!!

Hi, all

Two toddlers in their cots. DS at his childminder and i must scoot around to get ready for my course tonight. So, here I am on MN!!!

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Rrrrhh!!! Ok, I am losing faith in my ability to be a childminder. My dd (3) and mindee (5) bicker constantly -and I literally mediate the whole time he is here. I suggest new things to do every time they start in on each other but then they find reasons to fight - "it's mine" it's my turn, that's my side, etc etc etc usually at the top of their lungs. Despite my inner turmoil I am calm but it'sreally getting to me. I jumped down DHs throat when he phoned as I am so wound up. How do I effectively help them? I honestly feel I am doing the right things, being calm, mediating, distracting , etc but it's getting me down!

Do you think it is simply an attentions eeking thing or a personailty clash crace?

If it's the latter you can't change their personalities if its the former it can be worked on.

It's personalities - they both have very strong ones, he's an only child and dd is well, dd. It will work out, it's just frustrating.

How are you doing?

DP came home from work last night and brought up relate. He is going to arrange it, and I am pleased he is showing he wants us to work through things. I cam eclean and said I was still thinking of leaving - think we are both realising we need to sort it or split.
but at least he has realised and wants us to try, not just me put up with him.

can you get the bickerers to feel like a team? Get them to make buns or a tower or something together and praise them both throughout and the finished poduct?

Either that or just bang their hands together!

Seriously that is great news, that he realises you can't just tick over. Progress anyway.. I am glad you had an opportunity to come clean too.

I usually do end up having them do something like that - also saying that I can't wait to tell his mummy how helpful he's being

Will have to check Ofsted regs on banging heads together! hehe

Or you could bang Ofsted's heads together too

Yes I think we both feel relieved and kind of determined to do all we can - a big turnaround. We have a lot to work on if we are to stay together but at least now he is willing to go to relate we can say we tackled our problems and will try and get through them.