How much of a PITA is it when parents phone CM's?

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Just wondering whether to phone or not as this is only DS2's second full day at CM's and he was screaming his head off this morning when I left? He only goes once a week so will probably take him a while to settle in. I don't want to be a PITA to CM, should I just let her get on with it and stop worrying?

I'm sure he's fine but if it makes you feel better you could email/ text so she can pick it up when she gets chance? Or maybe just a very quick call?

Has she got a mobile? You could text and ask her to let you know how he's doing, which is less intrusive. if not, I'd ring - I'm sure she'll understand you're just worried & not stalking her

Might be worth asking the cm when you pick up if she can text you/give you a quick ring when things are quiet to let you know how it's going if he struggles again next drop off... my cm used to send me texts through the day when my littlest was settling in.

I haven't got a mobile for her. Hmm...would be good if she could text me though wouldn't it? Just to say he's fine. Will ask her at pick up, good idea funny peculiar.

I wouldn't mind a phone call, but it is not always easy to get to the phone when minding.

Like others say, a text would be just fine.

I do ad hoc minding, so a few of the children who I mind don't come very often. If they are upset when the parent leaves, I send them a text to let them know that the child calmed down. Often it's only a minute or two, hopefully your ds will be the same.

I agree texts are good in this situation. I never mind a parent calling but if it is not urgent then text is easier because it's sods law that the min you answer the phone a child will need you or a squabble will break out or something paticularly after school when the house is fuller and noisy.
i would never want a parent to feel they couldn't call though.

I always text parents for the first few days of settling in to let them know all is well. I also do it if they've been poorly or under the weather.

I agree with popperdoodles - talking on the phone is always the cue for all hell to break loose with the children squabbling or asking for something they know they shouldn't have (thats my own kids not mindees of course!!)

Ask her if she would mind sending you the odd text with an update just while your LO is settling. She shouldn't have a problem with it

Same here, text works but I think a phone call is fine - just don't panic if it doesn't get answered. No c/m would mind if you were to phone and check up.

CM should have a mobile for emergencies when out and about with mindees! ask her for the number next time you see her.

When I have little ones settling in I always text as soon as they settle down, parents are usually just reaching the top of my street! I even encouraged one mum to peek through my windows after dropping off to see her quickly her little one settled down. Minder should be happy to communicate with you and reassure you.

I wouldn't call though as this can be disruptive, but a text is fine IMO.

Also do you have a daily diary from cm? This would be helpful too.

lots of my clients text most days. doesnt bother me.

I usually text parents to let them know when it is like this. It wouldn't annoy me or anything if they rang, but if the child hears your voice or something when you phone, it might kick things up. Also, he might well be fine, but just happen to winge or cry when you are on the phone, which might make you worry more. I wouldn't of thought she would get a chance to pick up email but a text should be fine. Then if she doesn't get back to you then maybe a phonecall incase she hasn't seen it.