Our first (and up to now very helpful and considerate) AP left this week and we (foolishly) arranged an overlap with the next AP who is from the same country. They had been in email contact before AP2 arrived.
We thought (oh so foolishly) that AP1 would show AP2 the ropes of the 'job' and show her around the area, introduce her to other local APs etc..would save me having to take time off work to settle AP2 in.
What actually happened is that AP1 reverted to 'grunting teenager' mode and the two of them sat on the sofa watching music videos and ignoring the children when they got home from school. AP1 decided to 'discipline' dd for something which is not normally a 'crime' in this house (think she was showing off in front of new friend), she did not give dd any warnings, nor did she follow our usual route (countdown and then if still mis-behaving we do time-out on the stairs). AP1 banned dd from using her new toy for 2 days. I don't overrule APs (since I don't want to leave them in a poor situation for the few hours a week where they are sole charge), so dd stopped speaking to AP1, ds had stopped speaking to AP1 earlier in the week and it was like living in strangely quiet but not comfortable world.
AP1 now flown, AP2 is still in 'teenage' mode (general inconsiderate behaviour - leaving her washing in the machine; dirty pots in sink; sticking photos onto her bedroom wall (there is a corkboard to be used, but she used the wall); saying she has arranged a lift home from pub then ringing at 10.30 and asking to be picked up after dh and I have had a beer each at home; turning on the heating and leaving the house minutes later). Dh trying to calm me down and give AP2 a chance but I am feeling very sorry for myself and want to whinge
Reminder to self: Take a week off work and settle the new AP in, in the absence of old AP!!!