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Is it acceptable to ask the CM to have ds ready at collecting time and rush off?

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Eddas · 13/01/2009 16:15

Ds is going to start with a cm in 2 weeks. I am working around my dd who has just started at school. I have been working from home for the last 6 months and hate it, so this new arrangement is supposed to work so that I can do all my hours in the office. But I had thought the school day finished at 3.15 when infact for her class it is 3.10. Now I know 5 mins difference isn't much but it is when you'll be tight time-wise!

Anyhow, my question is, is it acceptable to say to the cm that it is tight time wise and would she be able to have ds ready(coat/shoes etc) and literally at the door for me when I get there, then rush off to pick dd up and ask that we have a catchup chat if needed on the phone in the evening if we need to? I saw her today and she did mention that she finds the need for a book a bit silly, I tend to agree as a quick chat normally sorts things but i don't think i'll have time to stop and chat when I collect. She did also mention that she often texts parents with little updates etc, which i'm happy with.

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Sidge · 13/01/2009 16:17

Can't you pick DD up from school first?

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Eddas · 13/01/2009 16:21

nope, dd's school is practically at home, work is 20mins or so away and ds and the cm are about half way between the 2.

Yes I did try to find a local cm but they're full or other reasons(see other threads i've started!)

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HSMM · 13/01/2009 16:24

Speak to your CM. If she can do it, she will. As long as you are not going to be late and your children are standing at the door waiting for you. If she has a 'no shoe' policy, then you may have to do them when you get there. In my experience ... the more of a rush the parents are in ... the slower the children move.

eandh · 13/01/2009 16:24

I think its fine, she knows the circumstances and maybe for first week you could text her saying something like 'just leaving see you in 10minutes' as you are leaving the office as alittle reminder?

eandh · 13/01/2009 16:24

and in september it'll be fine as I can walk your dd down the hill with me

MaureenMLove · 13/01/2009 16:26

Don't see why not. I used to have various mindees ready at the front door for just such reasons. Remember though, if you ARE going to be late, phone the CM and let her know. There's nowt worse that a mindee standing, looking for mummy at the front door, then suddenly realising they are going to be late!

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Eddas · 13/01/2009 16:33

my job is such that I won't be late.Barring traffic!

Thanks eandh i was hoping you'd say that and yes texting is a good idea, that way she knows how long i'll be.

I will ask her, I just wanted to see if it was an unreasonable ask. For the first few weeks I will ask my boss if I can leave 15 mins early so that I can have a quick catch-up. Unless she's happy for me to ring during the day. Not sure my boss'd be happy with that but nevermind! it'd only be whilst ds is settling in.

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ramonaquimby · 13/01/2009 16:35

not unreasonable to ask at all. have asked my cm to do this, otherwise it was just taking ages to get out of her house - wasting my time and hers as well.

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Eddas · 13/01/2009 16:38

my cm is lovely but she does like a chat which is great but not when i'm rushing! I'll happily call/text for updates at another time. Plus she has the school run to do anyway so i'm sure she'll not be wanting to hang around.

ds can do without his shoes atm anyway(he's 21 months) i'll just carry him

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MaureenMLove · 13/01/2009 16:44

It's actually much better practice for most CMs to want a quick exit, actually. Chances are she has other mindees on the way out the door at the same time and stopping to have a chat with all the parents could add a lot of time on her day.

cikecaka · 13/01/2009 17:02

I cm and always have her ready, bag and coat at the door and shoes on. Chit chat takes about 30 seconds at the most

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Eddas · 13/01/2009 17:06

the more i think about it the more it makes sense for me and cm, I do worry about the silliest of things

Now I just have to work out how acceptable it is to leave dd to take herself into class in the morning to save me a few more mintues! She has only been for 2 mornings, but both she has run up the steps and in without even saying goodbye so it's looking promising I think i'll test run her over the next 2 weeks and see if she copes taking herself in

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Sidge · 13/01/2009 18:11

Oh in that case I don't see that it would be a problem. But as HSMM says, the more in a rush you are, the slower children move!

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