CM Club - Help please with violent 2 year old

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I have been looking after DC since a baby and he has always been a delightful, well adjusted and behaved boy.

For the past few weeks tho he has become a bit violent with his mum (kicking and hitting)when he is asked to do something or cant have what he wants. I only noticed this behaviour when she came to pick him up and he turned from a delightful boy to a different child. Up until today he has never been violent towards me or any of my mindees but this morning when asked to help tidy toys away he pushed and hit me. I immediately held his hands (to stop further hitting) and told him firmly NO. He got upset but didnt do it again. When his mum picked him up I told her what happened and she was really embarrassed. I told her how I controlled the situation and suggested she do the same. At the moment she doesnt really like telling him off as hes just a baby. I like to think that he needs to know that behaviour like that is unacceptable.

Has anyone been in this situation before.

Boys need consistency and firmness. So you did right and if his mum does the same then that will help him get the message. You can't make his mum do anything of course... so concentrate on his behaviour when he is with you.

Thanks for the reassurance Nick. His mum is only soft on him for personal reasons but I will not tolerate violence of any sort.

You did really well. With my DDs any sort of behaviour like that was nipped in the bud very quickly with the time-out step or withdrawal of a favourite toy.
You can't make the mum tell him off, but she needs to work with you.
Sounds like he is testing boundaries and seeing what happens if the does NOT do what people would like him to do.
Maybe give him a couple of choices, like ask him if he wants to tidy up the toys or do some other task.
And of course, ignore the bad behaviour but notice the good behaviour!