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Becoming an au pair (panic panic)

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Kittuurn · 20/12/2008 09:40

I'm considering looking for a family in Germany to be an au pair for, for about 4-6 months next year. I will be 19 by then but have rather limited child care experience. I'm a native English speaker and have lived in Germany before so speak fairly good German. Before I commit myself and actually register with an agency, I want to get some advice. All advice is most welcome (I'm stressing!) especially about what you would expect from an au pair.

  • What sort of responsibilities would you expect an au pair to take over? I'm (obviously) quite happy to look after children, but the thought of taking responsibility for someone else's child for more than a day at a time sounds quite scary! I have basically decided to rule out the families which say things like ''we expect the au pair to be responsible for the children when we have weekends away or business trips etc.'' Is this unreasonable?
  • I've done quite a bit of baby sitting in evenings and (once) for a weekend, and I teach horse riding to under 10's. I have experienced trying to get children to listen to me, but have always had the option of getting help from the parents / my mum. Would you expect an au pair to pass things over to you when things start to go wrong? How much would you expect them to deal with?
  • Is 4-6 months (May and November) too short? I know many people look for 12+ months. Am I being unreasonable to look for a family for this period of time?
Also, what sort of things would you look for in an au pair? (character, child care experience, fluency in the language ...) All advice is most welcome.
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SimpleAsABC · 17/02/2009 09:15

Hmm let us know Feenie, sounds odd to me.

Feenie · 17/02/2009 09:38

Will do

cheapskatemum · 18/02/2009 08:31

Boffinmum - LOL at your BAP comments and at your grammar: "You sounds like ..." (just in case anyone doubts my credentials as an English teacher ). When I read Melissa's post I wondered about the bit where she suggests checking the state of the parents' relationship. Are we supposed to enact "Love is..." cartoons all day & every day?

letswiggle · 18/02/2009 08:47

I was an aupair once for a summer. Completely innocently spent the summer looking after the kids and wondering why the mother seemed to dislike me so much. About a year later the parents split up and the dad - who I'd always thought was nice, but again in a completely innocent way - came to find me and completely seriously proposed marriage! I was astonished. So the bit about the state of the parents relationship is not entirely stupid.

BoffinMum · 18/02/2009 10:24

Cheapskate, how rude. It's because I can't be bothered to type properly at speed given this is effectively a chat room, and can't be bothered to preview posts, because my PC only tends to wipe them given the opportunity.

I don't think I would have spent ten years working p/t as a sub-editor for glossy international magazines to bump my salary up if my grammar was defective. Nor would I be a published author.

Now toddle off back to year 9, and try to get some of your charges to learn what an apostrophe is, so we don't have to spend years thrashing it into them at university.

Feenie · 18/02/2009 10:30

That would be resplendEnt, BoffinMum!

BoffinMum · 18/02/2009 12:55

LOL!

I did wonder about that and nearly looked it up but then thought sod it, why am I even dignifying this with a response. Still hit post though.

Feenie · 18/02/2009 13:28

It was a very stylish flounce till that bit!

BoffinMum · 18/02/2009 13:39

I have only ever flounced once before (well four times on the same thread because I had to spoil it by coming back adding extra bits). I am a bit of a flounce virgin, tbh. I will try again.

Is that better?

Feenie · 18/02/2009 16:34

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BoffinMum · 18/02/2009 17:25

Glad you looked into it, Feenie.

TBH I am staying off the education boards as much as possible now, since I fell out with MNHQ about the copyright thing not being particularly reasonable IMO (my other flounce). However it would be wrong if such boards were only populated by 'fake' specialists, though, and would rather undermine MN.

cheapskatemum · 19/02/2009 18:11

It would have to be a very long toddle, BM, as year 9 are on half term till Monday. Apostrophe scheme of work underway - wouldn't that be good for my credentials: solving the misused apostrophe crisis that's affecting UK undergraduates today? (I would then obviously be over-qualified to comment on the Education board). Ooops! Split infinitive!

Terribly sorry, Kittuurn, we seem to have hijacked your thread.

BoffinMum · 19/02/2009 20:20

I would have to kiss you on both cheeks, Cheapskate, if you solved the apostrophe crisis.

cheapskatemum · 19/02/2009 22:43
Blush
eandz · 23/02/2009 10:54

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