Any cms around - couple of quick questions

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Hi, I am about to move dd2 (16 months) from her nursery and I think - after much searching, that we have found a cm.

Firstly, re settling in sessions. Should I wait until she has "settled in" before giving notice to the nursery? (there are 2 problems with the nursery, the main one being that nursery care doesn't suit dd2, although was fab for dd1, so we are keen to move her asap)

The other question is wrt references. I know new cm a little bit (one of her children is at school with my dd1). She has given me her book (sorry don't know what it is called) all about her and what she offers. In the back there are 3 written references. Should I follow up one or two by phone? Would she expect that. (I would mention it to her if I was going to do that btw). Or is it enough just to see the references in her book?

Thanks.

Ring the referees, the CM will be glad that you have been interested enough to ring them

As for nursery notice, I don't know, sorry

Thanks Toys/Boys.

If she doesnt settle with the cm then what would you do? Im guessing that since she doesnt like the nursery care then you wouldnt be happy putting her back in the nursery anyway?

So probably just give notice as soon as, because if she doesnt like that particular CM then you would probably just find another cm anyway?

I would ring the referees, as a CM my parents have always rung my referees and been pleased and reassured by the feedback that they have been given.

Hope that made sense!

As a cm user:

• defn ring references, but not until you've warned cm. You'll almost certainly be reassured, but if there are any concerns, people are much more likely to voice them to you than put them in a general letter held by the cm
• ito notice ... what are you planning to do if you wait until after settling in period? Will they not notice that your dc isn't turning up? If you're happy to pay twice over, then I suppose it's worth it, but unless you are really concerned about the settling in, I'd just give notice so that I wasn't paying double.

Good luck!

I have written refs and telephonic ones. Phone as many as you can - each may give you a different slant on the care she provides.

Re notice period, check with the nursery what their notice period is/check your contract with them.

Hi, thanks for the other replies.

She does seem to like the cm very much. She played happily on the floor for an hour while we chatted and put her arms up to the cm for a cuddle which really reassured me

I am going to broach it with the nursery this week. I am as confident as I can be that she will settle, if she doesn't then I feel unable to leave her at the nursery anyway. , so she will have to leave anyway. If necessary I will have to take parental leave and sort it out.

It is really stressing me out, I think possibly she picks up on it too. As I work shifts she only goes in the nursery for the minimum hours I can put her in (I pay for 2 full days and some weeks she only goes in for one afternoon, again this may make her more unsettled as she doesn't get used to it)

CM is very understanding as she herself once had a dc who didn't settle in the nursery environment.