Christmas ettiquete

[puppie]

Hi Ladies,

I found a thread on here about bonuses for Nannies at Christmas, is this the same for childminders. DS has been at childminder for 2 months now and I intended to get her a Christmas present until I read on here that nannies get bonuses. Of course I would be mortified If I am meant to give a bonus and I dont so any advise would be welcome

true - she has ds for four days a week and is very flexiable. She takes him when he's a bit ill and is fine when we change things at late notice (as we are a bit disorgaised still).

Orange our CM looks after DS 4 days per week and I am probably going to give her £50.00 in either M&S or John Lewis vouchers, plus a small gift. We don't live in London though. If you have a good CM that you are happy with and you can afford it I think its the right thing to give her a good bonus. Just think how happy you are if you get a christmas bonus at work.

Why would you give a CM in London more ( better/bigger/etc) than a CM working elsewhere?

I think most CM wouldn't expect a thing except a card, and would be pretty uncomfortable with anything other than a small gift, wine, chocs, smellies, photoframe etc

OrangeKnickers I am in SW London - £50 sounds like a lot to me tbh... wow! I really think it's up to you as to what you give as a gift - each person places a different value on things, and you know what your CM enjoys/likes

I never expect anything from parents - some give a little something (flowers/photo album/smellies), and some don't. I actually get embarrassed when I get something

Silly, I know.

I've had the same CM for three years and have given her £100 cash and a thankyou card from the kids each Christmas. I thought it was a nice present especially as I don't pay her for Bank holidays so she's missed out on cash. She doesn't seem to be offended but hasn't said thankyou either this year, only asked why I hadn't paid her for New Years day!!!!

NK6

Thank you makes a huge difference.Sounds like she's become too used to getting the cash bonus which is not a good thing especially in the current financial climate.

Whatever I get (huge or small) I am always grateful for as I feel at the end of the day they are employers (however friendly you become) and not every job gives gifts/bonuses.

As long as I feel my family are GENUINLY happy and thankful at the end of every week that means everything to me.