Letting nanny go... credit crunched!

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Anyone else having to make their nanny redundant?

We have had to make the decision that we would be better off financially with DH as a SAHD for the time being and letting the nanny go...

I've given her two months notice and she has taken it really well, but I am really gutted though as she is fabulous and my DD loves her to bits... any ideas on how can I prepare DD for it?

what age is your DD? if you think she's old enough to understand, i would just explain that nanny isnt going to be there anymore and that daddy is going to be there for her. make it a positive thing, dad needs to be able to provide same level of attention otherwise dd might become resentful that nanny had to go. also, mightnt be a bad idea for the to have a goodbye party with just the 2 of them, they could have a special outing or something with plenty of ics to remember each other by.

Try to make it as gradual as possible. Have DH spend who days with her here and there before nanny goes and also try to have nanny come back and help out here and there when you can. Young minds have a very short attention span, but best to avoid a sudden cut off which could be a bit of a shock.

When my DD was 2 our nanny resigned (just seconds before I killed her). I though DD would be trauna tised. But, actually, she didn't really seem to care. As it turned out I was a bit more shocked at how she didn't care than I would have been at having a 2 year old in tears. Now, DD is 5 and she is noticable sad when a nanny departs. But, she gets over it quickly and learns to bondwith the next one. Children are well and truly more resilient than we are.

Your nanny may have a particular weekly routine, such as certain places they visit on certain days. Sit down with your nanny and make a note of each days usual routines... then your DH can initially follow the same routines, and then adapt them as time goes on. That way, your DH will know which days DD goes to toddler group etc.

Thanks for the replies, she is 3.5. I think I will see ask nanny if she can occasionally babysit for us, or fill in for an afternoon to give DH a break - I guess he will also need time to get used to it!

I like the idea of them having a special day together - I will suggest it to her.

Thanks again

I am sorry to read this - I would just echo what the others have said about making it a gradual process. On a more vulture like level - I am looking for a good nanny myself at the moment - where is your nanny based? We are in Surrey (Woking)...

Sorry can't help Parapluie, we're in Somerset

Hi, Due to bad experience with nanny, I am looking for a replacement nanny part time for the month of December, no real preference on days, either full days or afternoons in Muswell Hill till 14th December then in Hampstead Garden suburb till early Jan.
My daughter is 8 months old.

mansy searchbut am sure somoene was looking for work over december