Advice re dd's sudden dislike of going to cm please

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Dd, 2y 2m has been goign to her lovely cm 2 days a week for just over a year, and has until recently been v happy there. However over the last few weeks she's been saying she doesn't want to go, and crying/screaming when I drop her off. Her cm says that as soon as I go , she settles fairly quickly and seems fine.

I'm 30 weeks pg, so I'm sure dd's unsettled by that, but she's happy going off with her grandparents for the day, so I don't think it's simply separation anxiety. I've asked the cm, but she doesn't know of anything that's changed.

I'm wondering whether to stop sending her when I go on mat leave, then try and sort a nursery out for dd after the baby's born, as I wonder whether dd needs more stimulation & play with kids her own age now.

Anyone got any bright ideas as to what's causing this or been through it themselves?

been thgouh this but not as bad as screaming. Only this morning DS announced he wasn;t going to CM that morning and that he was going to Nanny instead. Wailed when I announced that Nanny was out for the day.

I said it was very sad that he had such a terrible time at CM's and he would have to go to someone else instead.

Long pause..." I go CM today"

Of course it may have been a high risk strategy but I know he's just trying it on as I bumped into CM at playgroup with him last week and he was delighted to see her and inevitably runs out at the end of the day quite happy (which IME is a much better judge of whether they're OK)

Personally I be slightly wary of changing childcare arrangement immediately after baby is born.

I wouldn;t stop immediately when you go on ML: we're keeping DS with his CM a day a week after the baby is born to keep some kind of routine. Can't help on the disliking going bit, DS is the opposite - whenever we pass the CM's street he says 'Go CM's?' in a hopeful tone!

Thanks Kewcumber, I was kind of hoping that this would turm out to be a short lived thing, but it's just been dragging on...
You're right, he always seems happy enough when I go to pick him up.

Effie, yes, that seems sensible & it was the original plan, I'd feel terrible dragging him off to the cm screaming while I returned home with the new baby though.

how long is "dragging on"?

I do have to do a bit of PR on the CM when DS gets like this "Oooh B is going to playgroup today" "your friend C is going to CM today" etc

Since the last couple of weeks in Oct, I remember because she missed going one day that week as we were visiting her cousins - she had a great time and I thought she just didn't want to get back to routine.

Yes , one of her good friends there has just moved to nursery as he's 3, I'm sure that's not helping.

oh yes I had the same problme when one of CM's other children moved on. Defintely a combination of things. SOrry I think you just have to persevere.

i have a 4 yr ld mindee just come back after aprent took a year off...mindee after couple of weeks told mum she didnt want to come to me anymore..because i make her eat things she doesnt like...like Pie and tomoto soup!! LOL...she is before after schooly...she's never had pie here and only ever her (HER FAVOURITE!) tomato soup when she used to come last time as she has meals at home other than school lunch!...sometimes they like to make something up if they just dont feel like doing something?, maybe she was told not to do something last time/another mindee didnt share or went somewere he didnt want to last time and cant express how she feels about this?
Im sure it will pass, my younger mindees go through these stages, its more about them not wanting to leave mum/dad than not wanting to go, with the impending brother/sister arriving soon, she may be unsure about leaving mum?