I am so angry with CM, I want to call OFSTED!!

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When I got home today after picking DS (18mo) up from CM I noticed a bruise/bump on his forehead about an inch wide!! I hadn't noticed this in her poorly lit house & she failed to mention it to me too!!! I immediately called her to ask what happened & she said "Oh yeah, on his forehead? He fell off the slide, he has a habit of going down the wrong way." Surely this should have been recorded as an incident for me to sign? She should have told me first thing when I picked him up? GGGGRRRRRR!!! Should a lay a complaint to OFSTED??

I think you should tell her that you are unhappy before you go to Ofsted. Then if you are still concerned go to them, but I think you should approach this calmly. Do you still want your son to be cared for by the childminder or not? If you do, then by all means rant here but please think about your approach with her first.

But yes, she should have raised it with you. If your DS is anything like mine then bruises and knocks are par for the course.

you want to report this to ofsted
my ds is 18 months and is always doing little things and getting bumps and bruises. Fair enough maybe she should've mentioned it but seriously reporting to ofstedis ds an only child by any chance?

She should have reported it in her accident book for you to sign. Bit OTT to go to OfSTED imo, you should discuss it with the CM and either put it to one side and continue with her caring for your child or pull ds out and find another CM

She should have recorded it in the incident book and got you to sign it but i don't think that its serious enough to report to OFSTED. Your first step if you want to complain is to write a written complaint to her anyway - she should have a complaints policy so if you haven't got a copy already ask her for one. If you are not happy with her response then that may be the time to look at taking things further. As the other have said knocks and bumps are par for the course with children of this age.

Toddlers do fall over quite a bit... they do fall off slides and various other things. So I am not surprised that such an accident occurs.
Given it's size, I would have thought it would have been mentioned to you. It should have been recorded in the accident book, but paperwork isn't everyone's forte. If you look through archives on here, you will see that parents moan about Nurseries who don't complete accident books, so if you changed from CM to Nursery, things may be no better.
Moan to the childminder directly, if she knows you want to be constantly signing accident reports, I'm sure she will write them up more often!
Think about what outcome you want to this... do you want to find alternative childcare? Do you just want to be informed more often - would you have wanted them to call you at work, asking you to collect your child?

I am not upset about the bruise on his head. Crikey, just the other day he fell of our bed. I am FREAKIN LIVID that she didn't mention the big blue ball on his forehead to me AT ALL!!!!! I had to call her to find out what had happened!!! I'm leaving her end of December.

If you are happy with her in other ways and don't want to change minders it is better to try and sort this out in a less formal manner if you can.

and she still made it sound like it was his own fault!! ANd didn't apologise for not telling me in the first place!!!!

sounds like you have more issues than this with your cm

And just yesterday her other mindee bit his tongue because some liitle girl came down the slide while he was at the bottom of it. Is she actually minding these kids???

Ooh, Eddas, should I book an appointment with you so that we can analyse my deeper issues further?

I can understand why you are upset, not because of the bruise but because she failed to be honest with you straight away. You are absolutely right , she should have filled in an accident form, and if she had done, you probably wouldn't feel as you do now. Think you should complain to her first , though rather than OFSTED. ( By the way she should have a compliants log/file even if she's never had any complaints!!)

I agree with others. It is very drastic to call ofsted over this. I would just tell her that you think this should be written up and then leave it at that. Is this the reason you are leaving her at the end of dec? Or were you leaving anyway?

You do give the impression there are deeper issues, you know. No need for sarcasm, you did post asking for advice.

I don't think Eddas was being funny, I think she was just thinking that maybe you are already unhappy with her which is why you have got so upset about it?

i didn't say you had issues yourself, issues with your cm as in you don't sound like you like her. maybe way off the mark but the faces and 'i'm leaving her end of december' doesn't sound like it's this one incident of non-reporting an accident that's making you want to report her to ofsted

I'm leaving any way chloemegjess

thankyou chloemegjess and llareggub

Ok Eddas, sorry. Deep breath, sip of wine.
I won't repoert her to OFSTED, am just really angry, and yes I have had other issues with her but always swept them under the carpet & never brouht them up with her, but now this has just taken the cake

apology accepted now go drink more wine

Sorry all, I do get sarcastic when ABSOLUTELY FREAKIN LIVID!!

I will Eddas

Thing is, if there are lots of other issues then it does rather change things. If you feel that you are that unhappy over a number of things, then maybe you should contact Ofsted. But I might wait until you have calmed down a bit, and I can understand why you are livid.