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CM Club: I think I am being taken for granted or am I being too harsh?

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NumberFour · 05/11/2008 10:03

I need some advice please, on whether I am being reasonable or not!

Early Jan this year I received a phone call from Mum asking me to to school pick ups for her from the start of the term. I could help out, so I did. Four weeks before summer holidays started i received a text message giving me notice saying that Mum was taking time off work for the summer.

Two days before the new year started I received a call from Mum asking me if I could childmind for her again. She thought school started the very next day! But when I confirmed when she needed me to start (I had a vacancy) she realised school only started a couple of days later (!!) and that was when I would start childminding.

More often than not she is half an hour late for pick without a text warning or a phone call. Her pick up is already 6.30pm so a 7pm pick up is really late for my family as I have a 4 year old who needs to get ready for bed and a really small house where noise travels easily and LOUDLY!

I have talked to Mum about late pick ups on a number of ocassions. My DH is a bit fed up to say the least and I feel as if I am being taken for granted.

Mum works shifts so from one week to the next I do not know whether I am providing breakfast or supper. Some mornings are 7 drops off and 4pm pick up after school and other days are collection after school and 6.30 (supposedly) pick up.

I texted Mum the Sunday before term started and asked when would I be having her child. She phoned me the following morning.

I feel as if I am at her beck and call but part of me thinks that maybe she does not appreciate the fact that I need to plan things and arrange matters to accommodate her child.

I have decided to give her notice but I am worried that I am being too harsh. Her running late puts a huge strain on me and DH. I 100% understand that sometimes people are late and that unforeseen circumstances arise. But I feel that she is taking the p*ss.

WWYD????

Losing her will not break the bank. Just dent it somewhat.

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SimpleAsABC · 11/03/2009 20:10

Thats great, have just read thread in full, missed it first time round. Well done!!

ChippingIn · 11/03/2009 23:09

Well done! I have just read the whole thread (got half way through before realising it was old, then wanted to know the outcome ).

Hope you still buy something nice for yourself!!

JenniPenni · 11/03/2009 23:37

Well done!!!! I am so delighted for you

Numberfour · 12/03/2009 06:39

thanks, everyone!

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nomoreamover · 12/03/2009 09:53

Oh I so needed to hear this - well done you for taking on her on and not backing down!

Congratulations!

Numberfour · 12/03/2009 12:20

nomore, are you going through something similar? sorry if i have not seen your post

cannot tell you how relieved i am. silly woman should have phoned me to talk about it. she chose not to so i will accept her almost full payment.

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nomoreamover · 12/03/2009 12:59

Yes but am too scared to post about it in case it gets back to her somehow you know?!

Its not a money issue its other things - she was only meant to be temporary and now its becoming permanent and I don't want it to - but haven't the confidence to turn her away - its awful feeling like this,.

Glad you stood your ground - its nice to hear a CM not getting trodden roughshod for once!

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