What would you think - and say - if a childminder did this on 1st bedding in day

[OldLadyDay]

DS is 4. Childminder lives 2 miles away so came and picked us up this morning on what is set to be a few hours bedding in time before starting proper after half term.

Well she came and I let her put DS into the car seat - a booster seat with a back that used actual seatbelt - but was horrified that she places the seatbelt over DS's lap, didn't bother to put it over his shoulder, plugged it in but then didn;t tighten it up. It would have been utterly useless in an accident.

I was really embarrassed as it was out first day and I was aware that she was embarrassed too - but asked her if she was going to tighten the seat belt properly, and she said, 'it's okay, the seat won't come out' to which I replied, 'the seat won't be DS will' - there was literally nothing to keep him in the seat if there was even a mild collision.

She put it over his shoulder on the way back but it was still not very tight.

I had totoal confidence in her before this and now don't know what to think.

She didn;t expect that. I'm not going to feel gulity about any atmosphere that was cause by her ineptness with car seats. Badly fitted cars seats kill children Babybaby. They are never more vulnerable than when they are in a car.

That's not good, why would she not use the shoulder belt?
If i'm carrying any of my children's friends i always make sure they are in a proper seat and will get my eldest daughter to sit in the middle seat with the lap belt (if it's a short journer).
Longer journeys i hoist up the two back seats in the Zafira.
Having the correct seat and making sure it's all secure is very important, but then i'm a bit of a fusspot with that kind of thing

hi old lady , im a mum of 4 and a child minder and i would say start as u meann to go on as if u cant discusse this what happens in the future im lucky i have very good relasionships with my mums but when it comes to safty there is no compromise elle x