CM CLUB - Need advice over mindees cuddly toy that comes every day and now causing problems......

[looneytune]

I'll make this quick......mindee been with me since 8 weeks old, now 20 months. She's had this cuddly toy for as long as I can remember, it's like a muzzy/blanky is to other kids but now she's older, she treats it like a baby and plays with it.

My usual rule is that all things brought into my house have to be shared otherwise you don't bring it, end of! BUT....this is different as it's not just a toy she's brought, it's a part of her iyswim. Now the 18 month old mindee has started picking it up sometimes and then mindee goes mad and screams for it back.

Advice???? Do I make share? Do I speak to parents and see if we can stop bringing it? (gradually). Other thoughts???

TIA

Can you tuck it away in her bag during the day and just bring it out for sleeps or if she's upset. She'll probably protest at first but soon get used to it.

I had 2 mindees that had dummies and once past the baby stage (about 12 months) I did as above. After a while they used to trot through the door and put their dummies in their bags by themselves. One little girl used to run for her dummy as soon as she heard Mum at the door collecting her!

Obviously check with Mum that it's ok to do this.

id keep it out of reach from the other chlidren until mindee wants/needs it..ordinarily im the same, share or leave at home, but i have mindee who has blanky and mine are old enough to say no, its x's for when shes sleepy

I'd do the same as nbee. anything that comes has to be shared - special cuddlies go straight in the travel cot so that they're there for nap time.

Thanks everyone and sorry for not getting back earlier but this has been my first opportunity. I did pop back and see nbee's post and was going to reply saying she doesn't come with a bag as I store stuff here but then I decided that the best move would be to put the cuddly in her cot ready for nap times.

Anyway, I spoke to dad at pick up and he was all for it and is going to check with mum. If she's also ok, I will put in cot in the morning, however, I'm a little unsure of what to do after the nap as I MUST remember it at pick up time as they won't be happy if she doesn't have it for bed. I need to think of somewhere where she can't see it but I remember!!

Thanks again the replies

Ask her mum and dad if they have another one.

I have 3 pink bunnies (all identical) one for cm, one for home, and one for Grandma.

Sometimes, they all come home together, and dd is ecstatic, thiking she has all these bunnies, so we have to hide them away pretty fast

My cm only gives dd her bunny if she is tired, upset, or ready to nap. The rest of the time it is kept out of sight........

Thanks for that but I have a feeling there isn't one On the odd occasion, mindee arrives without it and mum explains it's in the wash but she'll drop round before nap time. Will ask if there is an alternative something though because then it can 'live' here and make life a lot easier

Now, my SIL had great idea for this.

She cut her dd blankie in 1/2. Then sewed on another piece of fabric to make it back to right size, so dd never noticed.

Hey Presto, 2 blankies

Stick a post it on the inside of the front door at eye level so it can't be forgotten at home time.

I let my children keep their comforters with them to have as they like. While I also insist that toys brought in must be shared, I explain to the children that a muslin is like a dummy to some little ones and is not for sharing. My kids soon understood that special comforters are not for sharing and now my 18 month old takes the 12 month old's muslin to her if he sees that she does not have it

But then, looneytune, I don't have screaming when they lose it. Good luck...

I have all that with muslins and dummy, both the 18 month and 20 month old know which belongs to who and yes, do pass them to them and it's really sweet. BUT, this is a cuddly toy and the 18 month old just doesn't understand, bless her. Think I'll try the post it note on the door, thanks for that