Please reassure me - he WILL settle eventually won't he?

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DS is nearly a year old - I start back at work next week part tine and he starts with his CM. He has stayed with her twice now for a couple of hours and has been inconsolable . I will try a couple more times before nexrt week - he will be ok won't he?! Any tips on getting us both through this?

When you've done the settling in visits have you just dropped him off for a couple of hours or have you had the opportunity to stay with him at the cm's?

Sometimes with lo's of this age they need to spend some time in the new environment with Mum around too, so that they can see Mum is relaxed and happy and give them the security to explore new toys and get to know the new cm.

I stayed for afew minutes, should I stay longer tomorrow?

It may be a good idea to stay for a whole session. Or to stay until you can see he is happy and relaxed and then leave for a while.

It is just that I am running out of tine now, he was sick for a while and I had to postpone settling until this week. Urgh I don;t want to go back to work!

He'll be ok. Try my suggestion on the next couple of visits and, fingers crossed, they may help ready for work next week.

With my new kids the first couple of times they are always with mum... for a couple of hours (uncharged) each time. Then it's two hours on their own with me and other mindees (charged from now on), then 4/5 hours, which works to a full day... we see how they are settling and play it by ear.

Often-times little one's cry when mum/dad leaves and then 1 minute later are right as rain!

It is a HUGE change for them... and it's best they know that mum is comfortable in the home too.

It is difficult for mum to say goodbye too and go back to wok (HUGE tug at the heart strings,).. not just him. I hope he settles in soon!

When you leave him in the morning, best thing is to make it a quick goodbye (lingering makes things worse often), and reassure him you will see him later at X time.