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legal reasons why you cannot leave a child with non relative regularly

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questionplease · 09/09/2008 19:47

i remember reading that if you regularly leave a child with a non relative who is not a childminder or nanny, or nursery school, it is against the law, and you may be prosecuted. can someone clarify this for me please.

im a regular who has namechanged as i promised a friend in rl i would ask mnetters help, and if she reads this, then i will have outed myself.
tia

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MaureenMLove · 09/09/2008 22:20

People do get caught. More often than not, people that are looking after more than just their friends children, but they get caught nevertheless. I phoned Ofsted about someone I knew was childminding illegally a few years ago and she has since stopped.

I do understand that many people feel they have no choice financially, but to have their children minded like this, but from the registered CM's POV, its just making a mockery of all the hard work and regulations that they have to work for and by.

I don't know the answer and I'm sure there are hundreds of unregistered carers working everyday, but there are lots of very good reasons and safeguards put in place with registered minders for the safety of everyone.

solidgoldbrass · 09/09/2008 22:25

Actually, this stuff about 'protecting' the child is a crock. A child is just at much at risk of accident in your own care, in your mum's care or in registered child care as when he/she is in the care of an unregistered child carer. You see, that's what accidents are: unexpected things that couldn't be prevented.
I appreciate that registered childminders would resent people setting up as unregistered childminders, but if someone wants to use a friend (rather than a blood relative) to look after one extra child now and again, surely that's no big deal. Some people's relatives are toxic or barking mad or not physically capable of either looking after DC or mixing with civilised society: why shouldn't such people be allowed to turn to friends instead?

SmugColditz · 09/09/2008 22:32

It's super-fuckall to do with safety of children. If it was, parent helpers in schools would be banned, au pairs would be banned, and every child would have cctv in their bedroom ready to to catch any first signs of WrongThink

It's all about the money.

mabanana · 09/09/2008 22:36

I do believe it is for child protection. There are plenty of nasty people who would like the idea of 'looking after' kids for money who don't actually give a f**k for the welfare of the children, and plenty of desperate or uncaring parents who would use them. There are even worse people out there - abusive, criminal - who should not be caring for children. How do you protect kids from these people otherwise? It's hard enough to protect kids from their parents half the time!

MaureenMLove · 09/09/2008 22:40

'Actually, this stuff about 'protecting' the child is a crock.' How can you say that!

So, if a child is injured to the point that they need medical care for any length of time and the parent has to give up work to care for them, that parent would not expect the un-registered carer to cover any of their costs? I don't think so. Registered childminders have insurance to protect against things like this.

How about if a child in your care, breaks something in your house that is of great value. Would you expect the parent of that child to stump up the excess on your house insurance to pay for it? No. Again childminders insurance protects the childminder for this.

I'm not a childminder anymore, so this is none of my business anymore. I'll leave it up to the professionals!

KatyMac · 09/09/2008 22:44

OK

If your child has an accident in your home - you can (sometimes) claim on your HH ins

If our child has an accident in your car - you can (sometimes) claim on your car ins

If you friend is looking after you child for reward & our child has an accident you cannot claim

Childminders have insurance

Back in the 60's children were farmed - tied in highchairs in filthy nappies - 12-15 per carer - this had to stop

Registration was the way that was chosen. It may not have been right - but it stopped such awful occurance

However in my local town some families can only get night work - so both parents worked nights. The children were put together in one house (up to 20-25 of them) and looked after by 2 or 3 grandparents - obviously unregistered care, significantly dangerous - this wasn't stopped because of the money but because (god forbid) there was a fire

This was not during the 60's - this was in 2005

mabanana · 09/09/2008 22:45

Also, just because something is an accident it doesn't mean it wasn't preventable. It is an accident to fall off a high tower. However, a sturdy wall of a suitable height could prevent that accident.
A baby plumetting down the stairs is an accident. It is more likely to happen if the childcarer is ignoring the child for long periods of time. Stairs are more dangerous if the carpet is worn away etc etc etc

mabanana · 09/09/2008 22:45

Also, just because something is an accident it doesn't mean it wasn't preventable. It is an accident to fall off a high tower. However, a sturdy wall of a suitable height could prevent that accident.
A baby plumetting down the stairs is an accident. It is more likely to happen if the childcarer is ignoring the child for long periods of time. Stairs are more dangerous if the carpet is worn away etc etc etc

Justforaterm · 09/09/2008 22:46

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 09/09/2008 22:49

NannyNick can explain this better then I can, I will have a look and see if I can find one of his threads about this subject.

MaureenMLove · 09/09/2008 22:52

JustforaTerm, yes it is illegal. Whatever she gives you, be it money, money for just food, a bottle of wine or a box of chocs - its illegal to look after someone elses child, on a regular basis, for more than 2 hours a day. Sorry.

I can't tell you whether you should do it or not, but just be very careful if you do do it. If there's a childminder at the school and she gets wind of it, who knows...

I was going to butt out of this one, wasn't I? I'm not getting shirty with anyone btw, just enjoying a heated debate!

MaureenMLove · 09/09/2008 22:53

Aye up! The cavelry's arrived! Over to you, lovely CM friends!

Justforaterm · 09/09/2008 22:55

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KatyMac · 09/09/2008 22:58

Justforaterm - can you do it at her house? That would be legal & you could be paid for it

At your house if could cause you to have a criminal record - or if an accident happened for your house to be sold and any profits given to the other mum - or prevented for working with children or vulnerable adults ever

Is it worth the risk?

purpleflower · 09/09/2008 22:58

So I could swap childcare with my cousin as she is a blood relative?

KatyMac · 09/09/2008 23:01

Purpleflower - that is a question only NannyNick can answer - there are diferent 'types' of relative apparently

MaureenMLove · 09/09/2008 23:01

Look, I think we both know it's unlikely that you'll get caught tbh. Just be aware and be careful who you talk to about your arrangement! I'm not giving you my blessing, but why would you give a damn what I think! (don't tell the CM's I told you that, they'll strike me off their christmas card list!)

Justforaterm · 09/09/2008 23:02

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 09/09/2008 23:04

(Where is Nick when you need him lol)

MaureenMLove · 09/09/2008 23:05

Absolutely. Do it at hers and the problem is solved. Everything could work wonderfully, but if god forbid, there was a nasty accident at your house, however good friends you are, things could get very difficult and I'm sure you wouldn't want to put a friendship at risk. That's what the rules are for.

Justforaterm · 09/09/2008 23:06

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MaureenMLove · 09/09/2008 23:07

I think Nick is on his jollies this week. I know he's got no day time charges anyway, I think he had a few evening jobs lined up. Gosh, don't I know a lot about a complete stranger!

KatyMac · 09/09/2008 23:08

I've met him...he really exists

solidgoldbrass · 09/09/2008 23:09

What grates about this is the idea that 'relatives' are always better than 'friends'. DOn't forget that most abuse, both violent and sexual, happens within the family...

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