I always cook for the children at lunchtime, things like, potato topped fish pie, shepherds pie, chicken and leek, all home made with at least two fresh veg,
Lasagne, pasta with various sauces, filled pastas, pudding is only ever fruit, yoghurt, rice pudding bananas abd custard etc. All my food is made from fresh ingredients, I take the children to the farm to get the meat and a specialist farma shop for the fish. We get our veg from the market.
I do not use fish fingers or nuggets or potato thingies, only home made versions. It is quick and easy once you are used to doing it and if you plan in advance so you know what you are cooking. I often make a big dish of something for DH and I and the littles have the rest the next day.
I offer water or milk, no juice, snacks are rice crackers, raisins, cheese, ham carrots etc.
I never give sweets, chocolate or biscuits!
I also give the parents a menu of the likely foods that aweek, so they don't repeat in the evening. All mine go home to a cooked tea too!
I wouldn't want the children to bring food from home, firstly you don't know how it has been prepared, and according to FSA you shouldn't give food not prepared on the premises, and secondly, it is much easier to give the same, there are no dislikes with my kiddies, they all enjoy their food as I have had them from little and they just eat what thry are given, they do have favourites though!