Nanny may change to nanny-share, who pays what?

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Our nanny has looked after my DDs, aged 4 and 1 for a year. She's great. DD is off to school in September and our nanny is contemplating doing a nanny share with friend of ours, so that an 18-month old would join her and DD2 at our house for four days a week (8 till 4). If we did this (and I have lots of reservations myself, let alone the ones our nanny might have), how do we split our nanny's wages? Seeing as our DD would be staying in her own home, I feel we should be paying more than the other couple. Do we go halves, or pay more? Does there need to be a financial incentive for the nanny on top of her current salary, as she's taking an extra charge? But my DD is off to school, so she's losing one charge anyway.

Any thoughts much appreciated...

I dont know anything about Nannies but I would of thought 50/50 was fair as although your DD gets to stay at home, it will be your elec, gas, water, wear and tear etc not the other families.

Yes around 50/50 usually or pro rata if different amounts of days are used by different families. You could also argue that the other family should be paying more than their share as their LO will be eating your food and using your elec etc.

I would have thought nanny would be expecting some extra money for taking on another child too (you will need to ask her!!)

Also think about logistical issues... on days the school is closed (or eldest DD is too sick for school), nanny would have all 3 children. That can create issues with transport, also with activities - often can't take 3 children swimming for example.
If you do decide to nanny share, then 50/50 or 40/60 could work - with the other family paying the 60%, as care is at your home, not theirs.

Your nanny will definitely be expecting more money - otherwise why should she do this? Presumably your dd1 will still need collecting after school/looking after/feeding so she will have 3 children to care for.

We always did 50:50 with the other family, but it got a bit sticky with one family when we went from 1 child to 2 - they argued for a reduction in what they paid the nanny! I said that, if anything, they should be paying the same but we should be paying the nanny more. (Can't actually remember how we resolved that, but they did move away from the area not long after).

One thing you will need to look into is how you're paying her - and splitting the tax free allowance bit of her salary.

Also - another problem we encountered - was when one half of the share wants to pay 'illegally' and you're doing it all by the books.

It sounds like there are lots of pitfalls, but I would say as long as you think about everything, talk to your nanny and the other family and keep re-assessing how it's working, it's usually a very beneficial arrangement.

working for 2 families is a LOT more hassle IME
they have different needs, expectations, you have to communicate with both families, negotiate holidays, days off and so on twice instead of once

plus the children who are not in their own home have different needs...I could go on

please make it worth her while by increasing her pay substantially
you can still both save on the usual cost of a nanny while doing this, but it honestly will be a lot less simple for her in this position

do you mean your nanny has decided to do a nanny share ?

IMO its up to you, shes YOUR nanny andit shoudl onyhappen if it suits you

also id say if in your hosue you pay less

after all its your heating, the wear and tear on your house, the other child weeing / vomiting on your carpet / sofa, things like travel cots remaining at your house all the time, + it will be your fridge that will be feeding the other child and your phone bill aranging all play dates!

I would not dream of telling my bosses i was going to be doing a nanny share
and even if they asked me id think very very seriously before agreeing to it!