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Baby crying at darker skinned nursery worker at stay & play session today

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Georgia324 · 09/07/2026 21:56

My 10mo is starting nursery next month so we went for a stay & play this morning. My 5yo also went there and I’m very close with the team. The first part was great, but then one of the lovely team came into the baby room. Amazing nursery worker, I could tell you lots of funny things and how lovely she is with the kids. She’s also very dark skinned. Suddenly my baby got very upset and was inconsolable. He got better when she left the room, but then she came back in and he kicked off again, absolutely terrified. Obviously this was mortifying - I expect it’s not the first time (from what she said, and from my eldest making comments about skin colour as a toddler) but it felt like it was so awful. She was very cool about it all, said normal, and the manager said come back next week for another session. What else can I do? He’s such a chill, happy baby. He’s used to being left & I wasn’t even leaving, I was staying & playing. Tbh his Extreme reaction was 100% towards the lady, whether her skin tone or not. How can I stop this being something that upsets him, or her?! I was thinking of bringing my 5yo in too, so my baby can see his big bro hugging the lady, chatting to her. He’s definitely fine with different colours of skin, there is a black girl in my eldest’s class, and her mum and the girl coos at him, but she’s quite light in comparison? Argh so mortifying… bear in mind we’ve know her for years (it would be awful anyway, but feels so embarrassing)

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Titsywoo · 09/07/2026 22:08

I mean... your baby isn't racist 😁

It could have been anything that upset them but yes it may be someone who looks different to what they have seen before. There's not much you can do - I really wouldn't overthink it.

Georgia324 · 09/07/2026 22:16

I’m a terrible over thinker, about upsetting others. It can’t be the first time from what she said but still feels embarrassing. He’s too young for a doll really else I’d buy one.. hopefully my older son can help!

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