Advice needed, i have to sack my CM tonight, need to keep it amicable.

[alittleone2]

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Why do you need to keep it amicable. Just say "I can;t find childacer cover for October so I am giving you one months notice as required by our contract"

Do you have alterantive care yet?

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oh my god! I'm surprised you've stuck with her as long as you have.

I'd just keep it really business-like - just turn up with a letter stating that you no longer require her services and are giving her whatever her contractual notice is.

Hand it over and say "we've decided to change childcare provider, so thank you for all your good work - here is our notice in writing."

If she asks why then you've got a choice:

1. you can say that you can't cover the leave later in the year and have decided to change provider now in order to give your dc time to settle in - but you need to have a response ready if she offers to cancel the leave
2. say that your work is no longer prepared to give you as much flexibility and you've decided to investigate different types of childcare (eg nursery/after school club/a childminder who works in a network) in order to ensure that there won't be an issue with staff holiday/sickness. Of course if you do choose another solo childminder that could be awkward if you think she might find out.

Good luck - don't worry too much though - people change childcare provider all the time and it rarely causes bad feeling.

I'm sure its stressful to do and its easy for me to say but thats why contract allow you to give notice - you're not bonded for life. You can choose to give her reasons if you like or you can just say you won;t be needing any childcare for the foreseeable future. IF you really want to fudge the issue then say you'll obviously consider her if you need a childminder in future - what can she say to that!

I'm sure its stressful to do and its easy for me to say but thats why contract allow you to give notice - you're not bonded for life. You can choose to give her reasons if you like or you can just say you won;t be needing any childcare for the foreseeable future. IF you really want to fudge the issue then say you'll obviously consider her if you need a childminder in future - what can she say to that!

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Leaving her DD while she 'nips' out is absolutely shocking. I would not worry about keeping it amicable.

Once my mum popped in before the school-run when it was raining. I left my OWN child here with her and she said 'you can leave mindee too if you want' and I said sorry no, but he comes with me, and I took him with me. I would never leave a mindee with anyone for even 5 minutes.

Unless her daughter (CM's) is a registered keeper she should NOT be "popping out".
You are better off without her and now you can find the CM of your dreams...NOT your nightmares.
Good luck, with finding that special person

What am i like? registered keeper? I meant registered helper.

I can't believe you leave your child with this woman?! She's a liabilty in my eyes, and I don't think I'd trust her at all.

Phone other minders NOW, and explain what you need. There's bound to be someone who can help you.

I can't believe you leave your child with this woman?! She's a liabilty in my eyes, and I don't think I'd trust her at all.

Phone other minders NOW, and explain what you need. There's bound to be someone who can help you.

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Sorry, but I wouldn't trust anyone to look after my child who I knew for a fact was a liar.

I think you are right to keep it civil. Just state what you are going to do and make no mention of why. Thank her for the work she's done (OK - through gritted teeth!) and get the kids to buy her some small token (cheap flowers or chocs). If she asks why, deflect the answer and say that you need to have childcare in October and can't be flexible. And that's a nasty job well done. To be honest, it sounds like what she wants anyway.

how did it go?