AIBU?

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AIBU to be annoyed by my nanny who kisses very loudly my baby all day long, 100 times a day?

I don’t think it’s a nanny’s role to kiss and cuddle all the time. I am around most of the day, working from home, I am available to kiss my baby, she doesn’t need to do it for me.

The worst part is when baby calls her mama at night and runs to her. 😢

Shouldn’t there boundaries?

Why’s the nanny still there are night? Have you actually told her not to kiss your baby?

Why is she there at night?

Yes there should be boundaries. What boundaries were set between you when the nanny started?

I mean in the evening when she leaves

I haven’t spoken about kisses, I don’t think it would be appropriate?

You don’t think it’s appropriate to tell someone they can’t kiss your child? How do you plan on safe guarding your child though their life? Is anyone going to be allowed to touch or kiss your child? Maybe you’d be better off putting your child in nursery

She’s technically not just “anyone” since she’s her nanny spending her whole day with her.
but I’m curious to know how you would proceed if you were in my shoes, to ask her to stop kissing my daughter, not sounding rude and not damaging the relationship.

This is so sad. You’re leaving your child all
day with someone who is clearly very fond of them and vice versa and you want to potentially damage that relationship out of jealousy? I had a nanny when my first was small and I was delighted that she was so fond of him. Made me feel a bit less guilty and sad about leaving him

Do you mean a paid nanny or a grandmother

If you don’t want someone to kiss your child, tell them that! Do it in a nice respectful way but just do it. Personally I’d be happy my nanny had a lovely relationship with my child, but I’d still have the boundary of no kissing. If you have a problem with the kissing it is your responsibility to safe guard your child and stop it happening, if you are just jealous but actually fine with the kissing then that’s different.

So you don't want her to kiss your child but you think it's inappropriate to tell her not to.

Well in that case nobody on here is going to be able to help you.

If you want boundaries, then tell her, it's your child. I think it's nice for children to have cuddles from their caregivers though, for us it's a paid job but for children it's a relationship.