DD calls me by nanny's name...

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Hi, recently my DD (3) has started calling me by her nanny's name... nanny is fab (had her for 6 months) and I know I shouldn't get upset but I feel I am becoming this person on the periphery (went back to f/t when nanny started). If she calls me by nanny's name, does that mean she calls nanny "mummy", sob sob? I know I'm lucky that she has gets on so well with the nanny but ho hum, just a bit bummed really... anyone had similar and how did you deal with it?

Children talk faster than their brains work. Do you remember the embarassment of putting your hand up at school and calling Mum instead of Miss!!! (or was it just me )

God, my 5 year old still calls me Daddy, who doesn't even live here (although we see him regularly) so it's not about you being on the periphery. He calls me Mrs ErMummy too.

DD(3) was calling Granny "Mummy" today.

Try not to freak out!

DD1 calls me Miss!

at mrs ermummy. DS (7) has called me by his teacher's name (various ones by now), Daddy, Barbara (childminder), DD, names of several of his friends etc. He is particularly dreamy though. Don't read too much into it.

Although actually DD never does it but she is totally the other way. Presumably it is only an occasional slip?

this happened to us too, dd started caling me 'doolie', the childminder was called julie but she couldn't say it properly. it was very hurtful at the time and as i was working full time then, decided to ask if i could drop to 4 days so i could spend more time with dd. but even now, i'm a sahm atm, dd still sometimes calls me by her teachers name!

I am a CM and my son,( 2.5yrs) who has never known anything than his mummy being here for him, calls me by my first name...because thats what the other kids call me, believe me- you can't do right for doing wrong! hurtful as it always is, children always know who their mummy is

I think it's normal child manipulation confusion. Is she getting a reaction out of you. She might just be having a bit of fun testing her ground on calling you something she knows is not your name. Not really understanding the impact, just sort of testing her boundaries, as 3 year olds do.

yes i am regualalry referred to as "mummy.... daddy ... me"

or "mummy.... me"

In the sme way that i regulaly call the children the opposite childs name

think nothing of it.... we alldo it

i also say "come and sit down for lunch i mean dinner i mean tea etc"

(the parents are also calld by "me... daddy, MUMMY!)

My DS often calls me mummytina, my ex mother's help and now his LAS in school is Martina and he calls her Mummytina.

I can see why you feel upset (maybe to strong word) by this because I am upset that he calls LSA 'Mummy'.

Although they love each other very much and I shoud be comfoted by that

I think its one of those things. DD1 muddles everyones names up, but is the first to correct me when I call her by DD2's name (or the other way round!)

dd1 called her first teacher mummy, and me Mrs Matheson. She still calls me daddy sometimes if I've been away working and dh has had them on his own for a couple of days.

mind you, i call her little sister 'dd1/ds1/dd2 - whoever you are - who are you again? are you a boy? or a girl?' just to lighten the mood a little...

and the 'good boy/ girl/ whatever you are' always goes down a treat too..

mine didn't ever do it with the nannies name though... although they used to call the second one by the first one's name occasionally.

it's only old fashioned guilt that is making you worried about it - chill, they know who you are.

Thanks for all the replies - it made me remember that my mum used to call me by my sister's name all the time, and vice-versa (and sometimes combine the two!) - just absent minded - so maybe DD has inherited that gene from her!!

But yes to guilt being the reason it bugs me... seems to have coincided with me working longer hours than normal, so I feel I'm around even less... Anyway, one of those things I guess!

Thanks for all the replies - it made me remember that my mum used to call me by my sister's name all the time, and vice-versa (and sometimes combine the two!) - just absent minded - so maybe DD has inherited that gene from her!!

But yes to guilt being the reason it bugs me... seems to have coincided with me working longer hours than normal, so I feel I'm around even less... Anyway, one of those things I guess!

my DS (19 months) calls everyone 'mama' when he wants something. I know that he can address everyone by their real name (daddy, granny, aunty Nic etc) but if he wants you to do something then 'mama' it is. Can be quite embarrassing when he says it to his daddy in public tho

My mum reels off about 5 cats names before she gets mine right sometimes- now there's a worry!!

I get all three kids' names mixed up, and sometimes call them by the cat's name!

quite normal fo younger children to mix it up, but a 3yr OBVIOUSLY knows the difference between mummy and nanny - she is prob doing it to get a reaction out of you

a friend who is a nanny, her child calls her by name as her charges call her by her name and not mummy iyswim

does annoy my friend a bit, but as child is only 18mths,sure will soon call her mummy and not xxxxxxxx

My littlest charge is 3 and regularly calls me "Papa" "Mama" and I know he does the same to them! They went to their last nanny's wedding the other week and spent all day calling her "Nifty"

don't stress, even at 3 it's just "uh... " if they're distracted.