I have a au pair that has been with us for just under 2 weeks but I am really not happy with how things are going.
She doesn't interact with the children particularly and once 4pm arrives (the time she finishes) she walks into the lounge, puts the tv on and that's where she stays until I call her for supper. Either that or she's on my laptop - which means that I can't get on it and that's what I use for work.
This morning, my 9 yr old was crying on the way to school (as I wouldn't let her cycle), the au pair just walked in front of everone and once we got to the play ground stood about 30 feet away looking completely fed up.
I asked one of the other mums in the playground if she could wait with my DD so I could take the youngest around to his class. The middle child walked himself around to his class as the au pair was staying out of the way and I was taking the youngest one to his class.
I came back and the au pair is looking even more fed up (if that's possible) so I said that she could go if she wanted to (she works 8 - 9am and 12 - 4 pm)as she wasn't being very helpful at all. She replied in a rather snotty way "I need to go" and just walked away.
The other mum asked me if the au pair had to be somewhere but all she was doing was coming back home (and onto my laptop).
One of the teachers then very kindly said that she would take my daughter in to her classroom.
I am just fed up with her lack of warmth and empathy but hubby thinks that I should give her a bit longer.
She keeps going out and leaving her bedroom window open (above the porch) despite me asking her and telling her and (after the 5th time), writing down for her that she is to check doors and windows before she leaves the house. My neighbours were recently burgled and I told the au pair but she still does it.
She has no idea about food.... she gave my 4 year old a baked bean sandwich for lunch She eats dry cereal out of a cup, she neglected to tell us she was a vegetarian until I was cooking her first meal here
She sits on the sofa and watches the 4 yr old play rather that playing with him or she sits and reads her book while he plays. She took him to the park yesterday and when they got back my hubby asked him if the au pair was reading, he said "not this time, she forgot her book". So she isn't even making sure he is safe at the park!
I have asked the 3 children if they like her and only one paused before saying yes, the other 2 said no.
The list is endless.....it is only small things but there are so many and she is really starting to get on my nerves!
How do i tell her to go and how much notice do I give her. Hubby isn't happy to leave her in the house once we have told her to go as "he doesn't know what she may do". That means that I am pinned in until she leaves
This weekend she is going to London from friday till sunday (not asked - she told me) even though she knows that I am busy and I had probably wanted her to babysit.
AIBU or should I ask her to go? What would you do?