CM CLUB - LMG asks WWYD?

[LoveMyGirls]

Ok i'll try and keep this brief....

PT Mindee's (aged 2) mum tells me about a month ago her work are changing her hours and she might only need me half the hours she uses now but will pay me tha same as she does now (i'm thinking to myself how long will that last?) then it turns out she is given notice so in turn gives me notice, this means I will also lose 2 school age dc just before the summer hols (I've managed to take on a 9yr old with ad-hoc over the hols, booked in for 13 days plus the possiblilty of a 12yr old on the odd days too) this is after about 3 coversations where i'd said are you def sure you want the place because i've had other enquiries so I had turned people away.

I have an enquiry for a FT space (aged 7mths) fab news I think but she says she'll call and then doesn't but then emails saying she does want the place, I ask her a few times by email to ring me so we can chat - she still hasn't called but I know she's very busy moving house etc

Just after I offered a place to the FT lady the PT lady rings me and says she has been offered a job can I keep pt mindee plus siblings? Bearing in mind I have taken on a couple of school age children for the hols and I'm not going to cancel that now so I will either have to have them all (which I can cope with because they are all really well behaved i just won't be able to go out in the car 2 or 3 days a week) or I will have to take on the FT child plus the mindee's i've arranged for the hols.

Money wise I could potentially earn more by taking on the FT child if I can fill up the holiday spaces BUT It will be simpler to keep mindees I have now as we are settled into a routine and children are all very well behaved and over the next couple of months I will earn a lot short term by keeping them but long term I could be better off taking on FT mindee (as she is younger and pt mindee will be going to nursery in about a year so will definitely leave me then) but there are no guarantees I'll get to keep either, the baby could just as easily be gone in a year or less.

I'm soooooooooo confused!

I hope that's clear enough? What would you do?

Goodness me! I'm confused too!! But I wanted to reply!

I am not sure what you should do tbh but when I was in a similar very confusing situation I took a step back and thought was would be best for me, for my family and didn't think about the money (too much!). I did what I thought would be best for me and in the end has worked out perfectly.

I hope you manage to work out what is best for you!

LMG I would be inclined to go with the FT baby as you have already offered a place plus thinking long-term the baby could be with you until school.

I would be inclined to follow up the full time baby, as your current parent has messed you about a bit, i appreciate she has changed jobs etc but she hasnt exactly gone out of her way to keep you in the loop as it were, sometimes its nice to have someone new and as already stated the earning potential from a baby is greater over longer period of time, and possibly existing mindee paretnt may mess you around again and you could end up with nothing, I know it tough sometimes but parents have to realise that we can change our minds the same as they do, anyway good luck with it its never easy and of you are like me you work out the financial before the practical!!!!!

Thanks for replies, FT lady still hasn't phoned me so not so sure I wouldnt be messed about by her either at least by sticking with the family i've got I know the dc's, they're well behaved and adorable! I get paid on time and despite being messed about (I blame her work, she has been honest and upfront all the time) mum has a lot of respect for me and always pays on time. Money wise I will make a lot more money in the next few months if i keep who i've got as well as an easier work load, I cant look much further than the next couple of months because so much can change anyway.

If the ft mum had been in touch i might have a different view but the fact she hasn't called me despite knowing I had others interested and hasn't emailed me since tuesday, I just think she can't be as interested as she made out tbh and I don't appreciate people not calling me to sort things out when I've asked 3 times (thu, sun and tue I emailed asking her to call me to sort it out) so I feel she's had her chance.

I decided yesterday to keep mindees i already had so I emailed the lady who was enquiring and told her i couldn't give her a place anymore, today I recieved quite a snotty email which has upset me but I really didn't have a choice I need to harden up I think!