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StickyToffeePavlovas · 17/12/2025 02:39

Dc2.5 enjoyed going to the childminder at first but now dislikes it. She doesn't seem to take them out in colder months or do very much so I feel that they are just stuck in the house watching tv all day. CM has other kids too. I don't know any other parents to discuss it with. What would you say? I'm not sure if not taking them out goes against policy?

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HappyAsASandboy · 17/12/2025 03:12

There is no “policy” for childminders to follow. They must care for the children and are inspected to make sure they provide suitable development, but how they provide that is up to them.

Some childminders do the bare minimum to meet the basic requirement. Some childminders provide an astonishingly rich programme for their children. How parents feel about the programme offered will differ from parent to parent.

I think my childminder is brilliant. She takes the kids to all sorts of places and lets them get muddy and try new things. I know that people have chosen other childminders in the same village because they don’t want their children driven by the childminder and they don’t want muddy play. Different parent preferences.

What matters is whether you think the childminder is providing the care that you’d like for your child. If not, try and find alternative care that does. Unfortunately, as with all things, you’ll likely have to choose the option that best fits what you’d like. It might be preferable to choose this childminder who takes the kids out in good weather and overuses TV in bad weather over a childminder that never goes out at all?

The only answer is to see what else is available and then choose. You can’t make the childminder change what she offers, unless she isn’t meeting ofsted requirements.

Iocanepowder · 17/12/2025 03:21

I had 2 bad experiences with childminders. The first one never took the kids out, the second one did a toddler group with other childminders but the kids were just left to it while they chatted. They didn’t go anywhere else apart from the park and the kids were kept in pushchairs when they wanted to walk, and DC1 talked about watching tv all day.

We have found nursery a lot better and safer, and DC1 definitely needed more stimulation than childminders provided by 2.5. His development rocketed once in nursery.

StickyToffeePavlovas · 17/12/2025 03:41

Thank you both . The muddy play sounds so much fun. Yes I feel that mine is an active child who needs to get out every day for a walk or even for a trip to the park. Kids don't mind the cold and I don't think half an hour outside is too much to ask. I feel frustrated on my child's behalf 😕 Perhaps I should just hand in notice and get dc into another setting. I feel if I broach it CM will take it personally.

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Iocanepowder · 17/12/2025 03:44

StickyToffeePavlovas · 17/12/2025 03:41

Thank you both . The muddy play sounds so much fun. Yes I feel that mine is an active child who needs to get out every day for a walk or even for a trip to the park. Kids don't mind the cold and I don't think half an hour outside is too much to ask. I feel frustrated on my child's behalf 😕 Perhaps I should just hand in notice and get dc into another setting. I feel if I broach it CM will take it personally.

Yes maybe explore nursery waitlists in your area and give your childminder notice once you’ve secured a place.

We found nursery safer as well, due to the CCTV and no pets.

WhatILoved · 17/12/2025 06:40

I’m a childminder and my minded children are out every day in parks. We will also go to playgroups and libraries etc. Then we would do art activities in afternoon. We don’t do as many “outings” as before due to the funding situation and parents unwilling to pay extra for these. The children shouldn’t be inside all day, they should actually have 3 hours minimum in fresh air. Speak to your childminder.

We have to follow the same standards and curriculum as nursery- the EYFS - so if your child is not following this, the childminder is not doing her job properly. The only Tv that goes on at mine is for a child that no longer naps and it’s half an hour so I can get a break.

StickyToffeePavlovas · 17/12/2025 11:09

Thanks Whatloved, you sound like a great CM.
You say if CM isn't doing those things they aren't doing their job properly. But it's not something they have to adhere to is it? The lines seem to be quite blurred. I suppose last year dc was only 1.5 so it didn't bother me too much as they were only just walking, still napping and more easily stimulated by toys etc.

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greensupersonicracer · 17/12/2025 11:12

It'll depend on how many children your childminder has in her care too, needs and age ranges.

My childminder is an angel on earth, but doesn't leave the house. She minds 4-6 children, and 2 of them aren't walking yet, so in colder months they don't go in to the garden.

She still offers a rich experience though. She's very loving, has fun toys, healthy meals and daily dance parties.

NuffSaidSam · 17/12/2025 11:14

I'd definitely look for another setting. Not taking them out and keeping them at home watching TV is nowhere near good enough. You could employ a teenage babysitter to do that! Start looking for another childminder (or nursery if your son is nearly three).

GrannyBee810 · 21/12/2025 21:45

I’m a childminder, and the picture often painted of childminding doesn’t reflect my practice at all. We very rarely use screens – in the past three years the children have watched 20 minutes of Stick Man once, on a snowy day just before Christmas.

Every day I set out planned activities linked to books, themes and the children’s current learning needs, alongside a sensory tray. We’re out most days too – woods, parks, farms, libraries, museums (sometimes by train). I don’t do toddler groups or soft play; instead children learn through real experiences.

At home and in the garden we have a covered outdoor area, mud kitchen, book corner and vegetable plot, and in summer we’re outside for most of the day. I follow exactly the same EYFS as nurseries and schools, embedding learning such as maths and language naturally through play, indoors and out.

The children are usually in a small group of 2–3, which allows for very responsive, individualised care, while still meeting regularly with other childminders for social experiences.

Childminders are not unqualified or inexperienced – over 80% hold a Level 3 or above, 11 percent a childcare qualification at degree level, and most have many years of childcare experience. Childminding is simply a different model of early years education, and for many children it works exceptionally well.

jannier · 23/12/2025 12:25

Do you know they are watching TV all day?

NuffSaidSam · 23/12/2025 14:13

GrannyBee810 · 21/12/2025 21:45

I’m a childminder, and the picture often painted of childminding doesn’t reflect my practice at all. We very rarely use screens – in the past three years the children have watched 20 minutes of Stick Man once, on a snowy day just before Christmas.

Every day I set out planned activities linked to books, themes and the children’s current learning needs, alongside a sensory tray. We’re out most days too – woods, parks, farms, libraries, museums (sometimes by train). I don’t do toddler groups or soft play; instead children learn through real experiences.

At home and in the garden we have a covered outdoor area, mud kitchen, book corner and vegetable plot, and in summer we’re outside for most of the day. I follow exactly the same EYFS as nurseries and schools, embedding learning such as maths and language naturally through play, indoors and out.

The children are usually in a small group of 2–3, which allows for very responsive, individualised care, while still meeting regularly with other childminders for social experiences.

Childminders are not unqualified or inexperienced – over 80% hold a Level 3 or above, 11 percent a childcare qualification at degree level, and most have many years of childcare experience. Childminding is simply a different model of early years education, and for many children it works exceptionally well.

The Mumsnet view of childminders doesn't match most of the ones I know either. I think due to the nature of the site it inevitably attracts people who have problems with their childcare far more than it attracts people who are really happy with it. It does mean that the picture painted is very skewed towards the negative.

I'm a nanny and it's much the same.

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