DD rude to lovely new nanny. Please help!!!

[nezelette]

I have a gorgeous new nanny and I'm currently "training" her (showing her routine/house etc.) I'm going back to work in a couple of weeks and my DD (3.5 yrs old) seems very resentful. We've had a great time together while I've been on Maternity Leave and she might be sad that it's all about to end.
Unfortunately she seems to have taken her rage out on the new nanny, who is amazing in all respects and doesn't deserve such treatment. I feel so guilty, I don't want the nanny to be upset, I don't want DD to be unhappy, and I really want the nanny to see that DD is usually a very nice little girl. Please help, I feel miserable!!

Your DD will probably be alright when you're not around. My DD1 was quiet and sulky to start with with the nanny but after a couple of weeks (so 4 days in total) they get on v well.

Could you send them ou just the 2 of them to do something special that could become their 'thing'. Maybe an ice cream in the park on a sunny day or a trip on a train - anything that might help her see the new Nanny as someone who'll be fun to hang out with.

Am sure your lovely nanny understands but it must obviously be a bit demoralising for her and she might be worried that you're doubting her capabilities so maybe buy her a bunch of flowers/box of chocs at the end of the week to let her know that you appreciate it's been a tough one.

Most children really are fine once it's just them and the nanny though so don't worry tooo much - easier said than done I know!

As a nanny I have experienced an almost exact situation, and it is something all nannys sort of expect, I mean you cannot expect a pre-school aged child to run into youre arms and be best friends straight off, and if youre three year old is being sulky and slighltly rude and incooperative, congratulations, you have a perfectly normal three year old!
But really MOST Nanny's will expect some degree of "Cold Shouldering" from slightly older children at first, but I totally agree with Weddingcake, maybe suggest something that you know youre child will love doing, that is usually a massive treat and suggest they do it together, bonding time!

sure all will be fine once you are back at work

excellent idea about having a special treat for just the two of them

and yes, please do tell the nanny that you are happy with her and understand the situation, or else she may feel she has had enough and think about if she has made a wrong decision to look after your child and in the worst case, leave!

ALL children with a new nanny, often PUSH the boundaries, and you also need to let your daughter know that this behaviour is not acceptable and back up the nanny

Thanks a lot, I'll think about something special they can do. Nanny's experienced and I'm sure she'll have DD wrapped around her little finger after a few weeks.
It's just soooo hard leaving your DC

It's hard. You'll feel better once you know they enjoy each other's company. Good luck.