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Loonaandalf · 2025-12-01T20:47:11+00:00

Does anyone have or know of a child about 13-14 months called Mabel who has a nanny or childminder who was in a Greenwich soft play today? I saw awful neglect from her minder, as soon as she entered the soft play cafe, she plonked the baby down in a soft play area on her own, when other children were running around. There was beads and other toys that weren’t necessarily age appropriate in the soft play. She didn’t even look around to make sure it was safe or even to see if the child was ok with being left. The childminder sat outside the soft play area with her friend chatting with her back turned, there was no interaction (apart from one time when it was time for the girl to eat) the whole time we were there (30 mins) and the baby was just left there. I told the woman that there was beads in the soft play that looked like they’d fallen off a necklace but she just said ‘oh yeah, thanks’ she didn’t come in and supervise the child even after that. She then plonked the baby in a high chair with no straps on, it just all seemed very neglectful and I can’t stop thinking about it. I hope someone who knows Mabel sees this thread and tells the parents.

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Loonaandalf · 09/12/2025 15:42

jannier · 08/12/2025 08:12

But not what you titled your thread. Also even though talking about childminding they may be their own children and considering it so discussing it.
Im still amazed you knew beadd were there but hadnt acted on it until after child went in and you told them about the beads.

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What are you on about? Have you a problem with basic comprehension or have you had a few day drinks?
Where did I say I left the beads in the soft play and only did something about them when the child came in? I said I noticed beads at one point when my child was playing, I therefore picked up the beads and notified the woman who had left her child unattended as there could have been more somewhere for all anyone knew? Why are you so hung up about what I did or didn’t do with the beads but you seem less concerned with a child being unsupervised?

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Loonaandalf · 09/12/2025 15:45

jannier · 08/12/2025 09:21

She called her thread childminder ignores .....not baby being ignored, not teacher, parent, nanny....then admits she doesn't know and justification is they were talking about childminding.....just like she is in thevthread and loads of people do without being one. In my experience its typically parents ignoring their kids maybe i should start a thread everytime ive been at the top of soft play and had to rescue an unattended toddler or when ive had to tell older children to leave the baby area.

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Are you a childminder who ignores their kids? You seem very sensitive.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 09/12/2025 21:54

If you were that concerned why didn’t you say something to the carer

was the child crying ?

I get the bit about beads but the rest of it doesn’t seem a big deal - if the child was happy

MakeItToTheMoon · 09/12/2025 22:53

If possible could you return to the same soft play at the same time/ day of week on the chance you may see them again?

You felt uncomfortable for a reason and I’m glad there are people out there who look out for the wellbeing of a child (especially small helpless ones).

Surely any care giver would be concerned if another person told them there was a potential danger to that child. You would stop your conversation and run off to see to the child!

Side note: ignore the posters that pick on the most minute detail instead of looking at the fact you are concerned about a child. It’s like you’ve done something wrong!

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Loonaandalf · 10/12/2025 07:13

MakeItToTheMoon · 09/12/2025 22:53

If possible could you return to the same soft play at the same time/ day of week on the chance you may see them again?

You felt uncomfortable for a reason and I’m glad there are people out there who look out for the wellbeing of a child (especially small helpless ones).

Surely any care giver would be concerned if another person told them there was a potential danger to that child. You would stop your conversation and run off to see to the child!

Side note: ignore the posters that pick on the most minute detail instead of looking at the fact you are concerned about a child. It’s like you’ve done something wrong!

Thank you, there’s some strange posters on here and worrying to think some of these are parents/ childcare professionals and don’t see anything wrong. That’s a good idea actually; I could try return on the same day I’m sure.

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jannier · 10/12/2025 11:48

MakeItToTheMoon · 09/12/2025 22:53

If possible could you return to the same soft play at the same time/ day of week on the chance you may see them again?

You felt uncomfortable for a reason and I’m glad there are people out there who look out for the wellbeing of a child (especially small helpless ones).

Surely any care giver would be concerned if another person told them there was a potential danger to that child. You would stop your conversation and run off to see to the child!

Side note: ignore the posters that pick on the most minute detail instead of looking at the fact you are concerned about a child. It’s like you’ve done something wrong!

The op had already picked up all the beads she could see she should have notified staff that there maybe more. The same way i tell staff ive just asked a child to leave the baby area as they are too old or that a child is eating in soft play.
Most argument is her assumption its a childminder.

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Loonaandalf · 12/12/2025 14:19

@jannier you are unbelievably obtuse, I do hope you don’t look after children, you’re not really capable of basic comprehension/ reading or writing are you? I did say upthread (and it’s not even a long threat) that I did notify staff. I still don’t know what that has got to do with this post though but you are pretty obsessive aren’t you?

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jannier · 12/12/2025 21:28

Loonaandalf · 12/12/2025 14:19

@jannier you are unbelievably obtuse, I do hope you don’t look after children, you’re not really capable of basic comprehension/ reading or writing are you? I did say upthread (and it’s not even a long threat) that I did notify staff. I still don’t know what that has got to do with this post though but you are pretty obsessive aren’t you?

Not thick obtuse or any other insult just think your odd for clearing up the hazard you can see then expecting other customers to search the soft play for hidden beads because you think they are childminders for some presumptuse reason....rather than slag off the staff who are paid and presumably trained for risk assessment for their failure to leap into the soft play and check it.

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Loonaandalf · 14/12/2025 11:15

jannier · 12/12/2025 21:28

Not thick obtuse or any other insult just think your odd for clearing up the hazard you can see then expecting other customers to search the soft play for hidden beads because you think they are childminders for some presumptuse reason....rather than slag off the staff who are paid and presumably trained for risk assessment for their failure to leap into the soft play and check it.

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I didn’t expect anyone to search the soft play, why are you making stuff up? I could have left the beads there and said nothing to the woman who wasn’t supervising the child, maybe I should have sat back and observed how long it took the child to find them and choke.

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MangerThings · 14/12/2025 11:33

Some people will start an argument with their own shadow!

Well done OP for looking out for this kid, and I agree, turning your back on a 13/14 month old baby in a public place is neglectful. Can’t believe some people think it is OK, and I am not a helicopter parent by any means.

jannier · 14/12/2025 12:34

Loonaandalf · 14/12/2025 11:15

I didn’t expect anyone to search the soft play, why are you making stuff up? I could have left the beads there and said nothing to the woman who wasn’t supervising the child, maybe I should have sat back and observed how long it took the child to find them and choke.

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So the baby was in no harm then, the baby wasnt crying and seemed happy, whats got your goat is they were not sat in with it physically playing with it becouse they in your opinion were being paid to be on top of the child 24/7 not allowing the child any self discovery time and they are not allowed any downtime in the average 10 hour day a child is in childcare.

NormasArse · 14/12/2025 12:41

jannier · 14/12/2025 12:34

So the baby was in no harm then, the baby wasnt crying and seemed happy, whats got your goat is they were not sat in with it physically playing with it becouse they in your opinion were being paid to be on top of the child 24/7 not allowing the child any self discovery time and they are not allowed any downtime in the average 10 hour day a child is in childcare.

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From the OP, I get the impression that the person looking after the child was not watching her. In fact her back was turned. Surely that’s a basic necessity? She doesn’t need to be in there playing, but watching a small child is what she’s being paid for.

BoredZelda · 14/12/2025 12:44

RichPetuniaAgain · 05/12/2025 21:46

Hi OP, I wanted to come on here and thank you for looking out for that little girl. Unfortunately, as with every job, there are people who are good at what they do and people who aren’t. You are doing the right thing trying to find her family 💐.

Welcome back! How lovely of you to come back after 9 months of silence to support OP. 👍

MangerThings · 15/12/2025 00:09

@BoredZelda i feel like I am missing a subtext here - it wouldn’t be the first time.

Anyone care to enlighten me what’s going on?!

MangerThings · 15/12/2025 00:18

jannier · 14/12/2025 12:34

So the baby was in no harm then, the baby wasnt crying and seemed happy, whats got your goat is they were not sat in with it physically playing with it becouse they in your opinion were being paid to be on top of the child 24/7 not allowing the child any self discovery time and they are not allowed any downtime in the average 10 hour day a child is in childcare.

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I really, really, really hope you are not a childminder or nanny. I completely don’t understand why you are so dismissive of loads of people’s valid comments and seem so hung up on validating leaving a very young baby to their own devices unobserved. It’s weird.

Not many parents do the whole “hover round them at every moment” thing, bevause that would send most people over the edge. However there is a middle ground that 90% of responsible parents seem to adhere to just fine. Freedom in the under 3 area, with regular oversight at that age, surely? What happens if they have a freak accident or choke on something (silently - that’s how choking works by the way… )?

My 18 year old kid takes littlies to soft play and other child friendly environments, and there isn’t a hope in hell she’d order a latte, then spend an hour chatting to her friends.