Help-how much for an overnight babysitter?

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Dd's nursery nurse has offered to have dd over night at my house (6pm until 10am) as I am going to a ball that will go into the very very wee hours as it doesn't start until 10pm. She lives with her parents (she is 19) and is constantly saying she is glad to get away from her parents' home, so has offered to stay at mine instead of having dd at hers. I will be offering her my bed, obviously, as we only have two beds in the house, so myself and my date (ooh! Sorry, am excited as am an sp) will have to stay in a travellodge or hotel, but am getting really really worried about finances as it is so expensive when adding a hotel on top, but would feel bad waking her up and sending her home, which is the only other option. What should I pay her? Is £50 fair?

I think more like 100 minimum, sorry!

I am a babysitter and would do it for £50

Agree with Lucy87, in my neck of the woods (Surrey/North Hampshire) you would be looking at easily £100.

Given that you want to keep the figure as low as possible, I'd suggest asking her what she wants to be paid - then it's up to her to decide how much she wants, then you just need to agree on paying that.

i d say 50nfine sh only young and obviously likes to be tere so, just say i can only do it for 50 see what she says but, she will only sleep and usually get about 20 poundfor babysitting on a night

were about you from ? nursery nurses get awful money id be made up with 5o pound!!, she might want the space to from her own house

We're in Cambridge. My dad was going to have her, which would have been free, but she offered to do it instead when I was telling her that I was going to a ball in a few weeks and so dd was going to stay at her granddads (he lives in colchester). I am an sp so defo can't afford £100, and she is always wanting to get out of the house as it is far from idyllic from what she tells me.

no id take gthe baby to your dads thats is exactly whati would do why pay for it while youv got your dad there offering,

I know, but she got dd all excited about her staying over as they spent the whole nursery day talking about it, and they made a list of what they would like to watch and eat together so dd is all expectant about it, and so I feel like I'm letting them both down. But saying that I earn the same as she does and don't live with my parents, so am just as desperate for the money! And I have been shoved in a corner about it. I'll just tell her that it's too much as I would have to book a hotel on top and maybe she could babysit another time if I go to the cinema or something.

yer i would, just tell her your really sorry but money s a big issue specially when your dads offered tell your daughter its not this week but another when you v got another day

sorry I read it as "overweight babysitter"

I hate to add it but she is that as well! But a lovely lady! Oh god I hate this-I won't sleep tonight now for worrying! She's put me in a corner once before-she asked if her niece and nephew could come to dd's party, which was £10 a child, and when I said no because it was already paid for she turned up with them anyway and expected me to pay for them on the day-it was so embarrassing! Dd leaves a week on Thurs tho thank goodness! xx

oh dear, thats bit weird of her inviting er niece and nephew, why did she come party anyway, just say no and be done with her, think she got you wrapped round her finger, do give her to your das dd will be just as happy there xx

oooh i remember your other story...i was about to say £50 fine, i charge about £70 overnight in my home(childminder) but i would def tell her your dad is dissapointed and wants your LO there, i think she maybe a bit too over familier???

Yes, will take her to dads-he loves her so much, and has bought a dinosaur duvet cover for her just for the occasion! Thank you all for not making me feel too bad! Dd used to be at a childminders and we were on very friendly terms and used to pop in for coffee on a saturday and things, and so I have carried on being like that at nursery but I think maybe you are meant to be a bit more distanced at nurseries? Oh well, it's nearly over now!

As a lone parent I appreciate money is very tight and I'd be saying no to her at any price if you have a free babysitter who is a family member!

Even if she offered to do it for free (just to get out of the house), it's not free if you then have to pay for a hotel for yourself.

Simply tell her your dad is having her but that you'll definitely keep her in mind next time you need a babysitter for the evening.

Also really weird that she turned up for the party with nephew and niece in tow and expected you to pay. Didn't see that thread but I can see why you felt put on the spot and paid for them. Maybe she wasn't clear or choose to misunderstand what you said. Yo uneed to be clear to her now, or she may well just turn up on your doorstep that night anyhow!

Gilly

how wierd and RUDE that she turned up with extra children!!!

regards to over night, i gen charge £80 - bs rate 10ph 7-midnight, and then a £30 stay over fee

she does sound a bit strange, regards to the fact you have said no and dd is now staying at your dads - there is no point paying extra for a travel lodge when you have your own house.

if you really want her to lok after dd, then suggest going out to cinema/meal and then she can bs at yours

I paid £150 for all day Saturday, overnight and to tea-time Sunday.

generally i charge £160 per 24hrs

bluethinker - you got yourself a bargain

You are right, but when you are handing over the cash, on top of the expense of the event, it doesn't feel like a bargain!

very true

i do charge a lot, (though im worth it) BUT i do reliese that after a meal/cinema/night away which costs money, it almost doubles the cost by the time you pay a baby sitter on top

i charge my babysitting rate til midnight...

then a flat £30 for the night bit (so long as they dont wake up) (id call night 0000-0700, but daytime can begin ealier if chilren wake before 7)

then nannying rate from get up time in the morning