Behaviour problems

[Mum2Luke]

Have been minding 3 brothers since end of March and their behaviour seems to be getting worse, they are aged 9, 6 and 3.5 and its not just me they misbehave for, they do it for their mum.

Its very difficult to talk to their parents in private as the kids are with them and they always are in a rush to get to work or hom after picking up. Should I type a letter stating that if their behaviour continues like it is i will have to give notice. They signed the behaviour policy but are not adhering to it.

I try to do fun things with them, I've tried planning but they refuse to do 'planned' things as they say its 'boring or like schoolwork'. They keep going in my sons room and take toys out and they know they are banned from upstairs rooms except for the bathroom. I am at the end of my tether but i know they'd find it very difficult finding another childminder who would put up with them.

As a nanny and not a cm my advice would be to stick to your guns on this one.

If I were you I´d speak to the parents and outline the procedure, discuss where your at just now, ie the behaviour is unacceptable and the steps which you´ve taken to combat it and then explain the impact it´s having on other mindees, your boys and yourself.

Then I´d sum it up by showing them a copy of the notice letter and explain that this would be the (un preferred) next step, should the matter not be sorted, or should any progress not have been made by x date, when you´d like to speak with them again. Alone. Without the children!!

Hope that helps.

Can you ring them after hours?

I would and explain that things are not going well & could they have a word?

Then if it's still bad after a set time (specified in your phone call) write to them saying things must improve by xx/xx

Then give notice

Without parental support it is futile tbh