What do people do?

[grannypants68]

Hi all, I have 2 children, I'm not with either of their dads (i'm nearly divorced from youngest child's dad) Dd who is nearly 10 and my Ds who is nearly 2. What do people do in regards to childcare when neither dads are reliable? No family or friends that can help. My mum who would've been the one to help passed away 3 years ago. I've been invited away for a weekend this month but I have no childcare that I can rely on. I don't mind not going/having a social life as ofcourse my children are priority but I would like to be able to plan the occasional 1 day and night away!! Thanks x

Does your youngest go to nursery? What a lot of my friends do is ask the keyworker or other staff in there to child mind for a fee. They usually bite their hand off and the child knows them well which is a win

I started doing evening babysitting for a family, where mum had custody and I never met the father of the children so I guess he wasn’t around much. After about a year of doing occasional evening babysitting, mum had a steady boyfriend and they decided to have some child-free time away. It fitted with my schedule and I moved in to the home for the time the mum was away with her boyfriend. The children were 5 & 7, they are now in their 30’s.

So if you and your children start by getting to know an evening babysitter, that could then lead on to having that person do daytime/weekend care, as they get to know you and your children and you get to know them.