I give up with this Au Pair milarky...

[MrsRecycle]

..yes I'm probably the last person you'd hear saying that but we are finished with Au Pairs - that is even dh speaking. I cannot believe how we take a girl off the streets, give her a home and family and she repays it by doing a moonlight flit. She texted me whilst we were away on Saturday to say she had left us. No notice, no goodbyes to the LOs who idolised her, just gone.

I hope you've all picked yourselves up off the floor now...

Mrs R...
What do you mean tell her not to help around the house!
I hope she has a lovely visit.
I had to give my AP a verbal warning today. Get this. I took kids to school and said I was going to visit MIL (mini strokes yesterday...another story ) She had college.
When I got back, AP had left, gone to college, without shutting the front or back door or locking them. Had left the garage open. TV on..! The house was like the bloody Mary Celeste.
Couldn't believe it

Oh no ingles one of the reasons we had an AP was that we got burgled before and we needed someone at home when we weren't there. However, many security issues (like yours) later, we realised it is actually more secure without an AP there .

How many more warnings has she got left?

well next installment - got a letter from college and xAP hasn't been attending lessons that we paid for and gave her the of cost of travel for. How deceitful, so every college day when I let her off the chores so she could get there on time, she was actually not going there. dh has said of all the xAPs she was the worst by far. At least the xAP before her had the decency to give us notice/not pretend she wanted to go to college and waste our hard-earned money.

What a lying cow!
I don't know, I've been thinking about this and this is a huge sweeping statement so ignore me if you wish. But I think the current generation of early 20's are a nightmare. Due, I think to good times economically and the rise of celebrity / internet culture. They've had no experience of hard work and responsibility. IME they seem to have this huge sense of entitlement and massive self confidence that everything good in life will be presented to them on a plate. Now we are heading for hard times I think this is going to come as a terrible shock. In my life it just makes me even more determined that my ds's will understand the meaning of money, hard work, dedication and responsibility..

MrsRecycle, just wanted to say what a terrible story. So she basically stole your money. Can you ask for the money back? How she could abuse your trust in that way when you had let her into your house... it's just unbelievable. I totally agree with Ingles' views.

well said Ingles2. Roll on the hard times say..it will bring a sense of proportion back to the world

MrsR, yet another kick from xAP - she was a prize one wasn't she?

Ingles you are right, my ex MH (who is now DS' 121) has been here 5 years, is amazed at the girls coming in now and the demands they make.

MP oh poor DS, I hope he recovers quickly.

I haven't been in AP/Nannies since my thread debacle, in case BG came back!

yo MDS dont hide..........how are you getting on without help.....thinking of you.

DS is fine now..........very black and blue but is a hero for being very brave and hopefully no lasting damage.Thanks for asking

Hi MP

Am currently OK as DS back at full health and in nursery 5 mornings. House is chaotic though - can't think why?

I am fortified by the June arrival of very keen sounding German, has called (English very good) and in regular email contact. She is doing lots of research into children's games and educational strategies for DS. She says she will do her best to make up happy!

Also have one lined up for Sept who is in final year of English teaching degree and needs an 'intern' period, so she also sounds promising.

Oh, and thank you for thinking of me. It is much appreciated!

ingles - did you overhear dh and I talking last night - we said exactly the same thing. They don't know the meaning of hard work yet expect more and more in return. Our LOs (baby included) know how to use a hoover, wash-up and polish - something last two APs obviously didn't know as I've just spent an hour cleaning the room/bathroom. And I know it was clean before as lovely old AP was always spotless. She used to work in a hotel so knew what hard work was all about.

welcome back MDS - we missed you - the german sounds wonderful, I've a feeling she's going to be a good one. Am so pleased to hear ds is much much better - hope you've been getting some sleep.

MeanBeans - yep, she stole our money so I guess that's why she didn't give notice - as she'd knew we'd take it out of her pocket money. Actually dh has told the LOs that she left because she was dishonest and stole from us and didn't go to college when she was meant to. I didn't agree with his "white lie" at the time but, however, it turns out it was the truth. I would love to get it back from her but really don't want to contact her again. Put this down to experience (yet again!).

Mrs R I'm a spy doncha know

Hi MDS you ok? Glad DS is better.. x

My 2 best ones were Germans. Really good work ethic!

Hi Mrs R. Only just seen this thread and just wanted to say poor you! Sorry to hear you have had so much trouble!

I will try not to take offense to the people in their early 20's comments. We are not all that bad you know . I do in some ways agree though (even though I am 21!!!) I don't think I am like that, but thats due to my parents doing a good job! When I met my DH (now 23) he was 19 and didnt do a thing round the house, his mum did everything for him - would even run him a bath in the evening!!!! He is not like that now, but he is still messy and takes FOREVER to do anything, washing up etc. I am hoping our DD wont be like that.

My current ap is German and is the exception to mummypoppin's rule! A 9 am start is waaaaaaaay too early to be ready to start work in the morning, don't you know! And this was a one-off 9am start. I even found myself offering to go into work late so that she wouldn't have to be ready by 9am and then I thought "What am I doing?!"