My 2 year old son has recently become involved with speech and language support and also community paediatricians due to his speech development being slower than average and some of his behaviours (which typically have improved since the referral). I have never had any problems with the childminder and either of the kids that she looks after until she was told that they were monitoring for any early autism signs. Since then I have recieved multiple negative daily text messages from her saying that he has hit out, won't eat with other children or wont sit at the table, been emotional, sends me pictures of him crying on the floor and messages telling me that my hours in work are too long and it's too long of a day with him (8am-4pm). I have started to dread sending him there for the 2 days a week that he goes because the negative messages whilst I'm at work in the hospital make me really stressed and like such a bad parent. She has also now been making negative comments about my oldest who she has looked after for 4 years.
She never expressed ANY issues until autism was mentioned and literally from the next time he was there, there was every problem under the sun and problems that we never see at home.
Am I being too sensitive? Is this a childminder that cannot cope?
She also tells different things to me, dad and nan who may collect the boys...