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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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AIBU to call my mindees parents to find out what time they are picking him up because...

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ladytophamhatt · 25/04/2008 14:28

They forgot to put his comforter in his bag and he's really really unhappy and tired.

I've tried all sorts of alternatives to comfort him but his lamby isn't here and he isn't having any of it.
Ds4 and mindee are slowly dismantling my house as they are both feeling rotten atm and its the only thing keeping them remotley happy.

Phoning to find out what time feels abit cheeky.

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aGalChangedHerName · 25/04/2008 14:30

Oh i didn't know you were a CM LTH.

I am on the OWLS thread with you btw.

Yes i would phone them and ask especially if he's unwell or miserable without it.

newgirl · 25/04/2008 14:33

call them to ask for it definitely and say he is not happy without it

then you can suss things out from there

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ladytophamhatt · 25/04/2008 14:33

I'm not really offically a CM, shes in my RL post natal group with ds4 and I offered to have her ds when she returned to work.

I'm not registared.

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ladytophamhatt · 25/04/2008 14:35

I sent my friend a text at work so she'll know, its her Dh collecting him.

He's crying again now....

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aGalChangedHerName · 25/04/2008 14:42

Oh right(your secrets safe with me)

Yep there's nothing worse than a child without their comforter.I would have phoned too.

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ladytophamhatt · 25/04/2008 14:53

I phoned and luckily he was working at home so has brought it over.

Mindee is already alseep!!!!

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chipmonkey · 25/04/2008 15:10

Amazing the little things that make such a difference!

Rubybees · 01/05/2008 17:47

why aren't you reg? please don't give childminders a bad name by doing this

ElfOnTheTopShelf · 01/05/2008 17:50

why is it giving childminders a bad name by not being registered?

Rubybees · 01/05/2008 17:55

because if you are not registered, you do not go through all the checks such as crb, doctors medical, ICP, first aid, INSURANCE FFS along side Ofsted inspections making sure you are a suitable person to look after other peoples children IN YOUR OWN HOME

too many people are acting as childminders that are NOT, making us look bad, I know okay, I have had oh your just a childminder comments and until you point out all of the above (not to meantion all the other training I have had) it gets my back up big time.

crace · 01/05/2008 18:43

It's just unfair as we go through a lot to be registered properly. Also you run the risk of being reported to Ofsted if you are operating as a childminder unregistered.

TrinityTheProgressingRhino · 01/05/2008 18:47

surely anyone can make an agreement between themselves to be paid to look after their child??

she isn't advertising as a chilminder

NotABanana · 01/05/2008 18:48

Sorry, it is you are or you're, not your.

It is one of my bug bears.

As you were.

MaureenMLove · 01/05/2008 18:48

Anyone looking after a child for more than 2 hours a day in their own home, for reward, is illegally childminding. Rewards include wine, chocolates, flowers etc as well as money.

iMum · 01/05/2008 18:48

It is illegal tho to look after another child in your home for any kind of payment unless they are family-tho lots and lots of peeps do it, just a fact of life I guess.

ElfOnTheTopShelf · 01/05/2008 19:07

I did not know that. I knew you could not claim for childminding costs if you are not using a registered childminder / nursery.
Didn't mean to start anything, was just wondering!

crace · 01/05/2008 19:22

You didn't! Pet peeve I suppose for childminders. We are put through a lot, and have a lot more to go through this fall with Early Years Foundation Stage. We also pay for the privilege of being registered, which may go up to £200 a year. And we can't pass this on, either!

iMum · 01/05/2008 19:32

Fact is tho in my exp )and i may well be wrong, it has been know) its noly registered CM who know that you have to be registered!

ElfOnTheTopShelf · 01/05/2008 19:34

yes, my childminder is getting all prepped for the new early year things!

Hulababy · 01/05/2008 19:37

I checked up on this witht he Childminding association and they said that really so long as it isn't for money you are find. The reward just can't be a regular, substantial amount according to them. So, for example, I will be looking after a friend's DS one daya week for no payment from next week. There is no benefit/reward to me. I get nothing extra than I already get - the odd baby sitting fom her, meals cooked or meals out, bottles of wine for thanks after doing extra stuff, etc. These things already happen, esp as my DD and her DD are thesame age. I had it all checked and they aokayed it all as being legal.

ElfOnTheTopShelf · 01/05/2008 19:45

is it not more the fact that people are being paid from a tax point of view rather than anything else?

Ripeberry · 01/05/2008 21:07

I'm looking to becoming a childminder and i'm preparing for the courses and setting up my business.
But there is a lady (in her 40s) that gives childcare to friends that she meets at the playschool and lots of people use her and pay her to look after her children.
She knows she is doing it illegaly, but what can you do, when parents know that she is not registered but "She's so good with the kids and so cheap!"
I mentioned to her that i was training to be a childminder and she almost went white! and started blurting out that she would NEVER pass an inspection because of her garden being unusable as it's so steep.
WTFS, does she do with her mindees then?
I've got a feeling that even if i was registered, she would decide to undermine me and my business by saying she is much cheaper, but i just hope that the parents use their brains rather than counting out the pennies.
But in the end, it's up to them, at least i've got a nice big safe FLAT garden!
OK rant over.

ElfOnTheTopShelf · 01/05/2008 21:08

my childminder is registered and her garden isn't flat!

cheesesarnie · 01/05/2008 21:11

i feel sorry for op-she only asked a simple question about a comforter!

MaureenMLove · 01/05/2008 21:30

I wasn't being rude or slating the OP, I am just concerned for her really. It is illegal and carries a heavy fine, if she is caught.

The other thing that concerns me, is that whilst they are friends now, whilst it's all going well, if, god forbid, anything happened to that child whilst in her care, the friendship could be severely challenged. Without insurance and contracts, it could get very nasty.

These rules and regulations are put in place for the safety of both child and minder and I would urge anyone considering looking after someone elses child, without being registered, to think very carefully.

That said, I don't think its unreasonable to call a parent to ask what time they are collecting, if you have not be provided with the right equipment to keep them happy all day.

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