Feeling stuck, hoping someone can offer a new perspective.
Started with a new CM in Jan, when DS was 23 months (previous CM took a year off). Almost immediately he started pushing other kids, especially the little girl who’s there with him most days. This is still going on, 9 months later, better some weeks, worse others. He will also lash out at the CM when frustrated sometimes, or refuse to cooperate (e.g. won’t hold her hand when crossing the road). The CM seems stumped and is understandably worried about the other kids she looks after and their experience. We agree it doesn’t seem aggressive, more that he gets over excited/wound up, or doesn’t want to share, or wait his turn. He does this far less at home/out with me, and I think it may be about sharing attention/wanting to get the adult’s attention, as being told off doesn’t seem to put him off. She’s tried being stern/firm, and quiet time sitting him down to talk about it, she also tried for a while putting him in the cot as a sort of calm down space. At home we are also trying to say ‘no I don’t want you to hit’ and walk away if he tries it with us.
I’m getting really down as several times a week she’s telling me how difficult it is, but we can’t seem to find a way to address it. Def not blaming her, I see how frustrating it is. In general he is very strong willed and spirited, though also can concentrate for a long time if he’s keen and has good language skills. He’s now 31 months. Wondering if it’s the wrong setting for him, but also not keen to change again and cause more disruption (we also moved/renovated during the past year, which I’m sure didn’t help).
Any ideas very gratefully received!