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[mumlove]

Morning everyone

Just have DD to sort out and get to school this morning before mindee arrives as this is my short and quiet day and I enjoy that.

Only cheerios and mini choc weetabix for breakfast this morning as I don't have all the other fancy stuff that you all have.

Morning. Choc weetabix sounds yummy, I'm soooo hungry this morning after having a visitor turning up late, leaving late and therefore me not having any proper dinner.

I feel like a total zombie today, I'm so glad it's Friday!!!

I a bit annoyed today tbh. This visitor announced her dd's 2nd wedding date has been decided and it's 2 days before my due date (they live 2/3 hours away). I said it was a shame and that there is no way I'd be able to go and she sort of looked and said why. I've got a thread in pg section so won't go on about it, just I've decided that INBU to stay at home and refuse to go under the circumstances. It does however leave me a bit upset about dh going (if he decides to) as he will be away so very close to when the baby is due and that makes me feel really uncomfortable

Moan over, off to eat.

morning all. day off today! am taking dd to the mad house and then out to lunhc as it's my birthday tomorrow!

Met mo yesterday to collect the sadnpit - she's lovely, even came to meet us when we got lost! (i blame my friend who sadi i know where that is and left her satnav at home der!) but sandpit is fab, thankyou so much mo and for the books too. I'll deff be doing some of those crafty things now!

I'm doing ok, thanks for all the support over the last few weeks. still get wobbles every now and then, something tips me over the edge. yesterday was not good - my blardy car is broke again! it's crazy - i've never had so much go wrong with a car in the 8 weeks i've owned it! handbrake ratchet broke yesterday! am going to patch it up and sell it on methinks. can't stand it anymore. don't really need something so big either we've discovered, as i no longer have my afterschooly i just need to be able to get three car seats across the back and amybe two foldy down seats in the boot. we will be walking to scholl come septmember and any afterschoolies will be walking with us! am not planning on taking on anyone else between now and septmeber - i'm just too fragile and stressed about lots of things. this is such a good place to vent, thanks for listening!

EllieM - I was at the Madhouse yesterday!! Have fun I'm not far from there at all (5 mins) so if you want to get together some time, let me know Bad news about the car, just not what you need is it!!

Just waiting for mindee1 to arrive then I've got tiny mindee from 9.30-2. Can't go on car journeys apart from groups with tiny baby, and Friday is my no group day. So, when she's gone this afternoon, I'm off to World of Water with the other 2 to look at the fish

looney - just posted on your wedding thread!

have you ever had lunch at the madhouse? is it ok? oh and was is mad yesterday!

hope you're doing ok and have slowed down abit. 10 weeks and counting for you!

Thanks Ellie, just seen it. Yes, I've eaten at the madhouse before and I think it's nice actually. The kids food is pretty much the usual kids food but it's fine. In fact, I could easily eat a kids sausage, chips and beans right now!!

As for slowing down, only atm due to it being school hols so less rushing and one less mindee. It will be back to all systems go when they go back!

For some reason I thought I had 3 weeks off before the due date but I was wrong, I only took 2 weeks off in the end. I'm looking forward to Monday when I turn 30 weeks - just sounds better (this feels like the longest pregnancy ever )

Anyway, have a lovely time at Madhouse. Maybe we could go together some time?

yes that'd be nice to meet up there one day! maybe when you're on mat leave and wnat to get out for a while!

are we the only ones up this morning!

what do you know about balloons!

Sounds good

I've no idea about hellium balloons but have bumped your thread. Hope you have a lovely birthday

Still no mindees but expect they will both be here in about 10 mins.

Hi I know lots of you are on my MSN contacts list PLEASE DO NOT OPEN any link sent to you that says I have a pix of you, IT IS A VIRUS, (sorry Looney I know you already have)

I opened one last night from a friend and it caused all sorts of probs. and had to totally clean my PC this morning!

I never normally click but because it had emoticons with it, it all looked personal. Do you know what the virus is? I'm having only a couple of problems but not sure if it's doing damage in the background?

No, one of my dads sorted mine, I AM NOT comupter literate

put this in the wrong staffroom.please help!

PANIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My 3yr old mindee !
YEsterday whilst out at park/safe/library etc he was very 'dreamy' but he is kind of like this anyway, so i noted it but not tok too much notice..when walking out of park he went to walk off with another family and when i shouted him over he just changed direction ..as if he didnt really click?..anyway, again, he is dreamy, so didnt think too much of it..we went on all the stuff at park, all fine, running around..when on roundabout mindee and dd shouting faster, but then mindee said he was dizzy, so i got him off, sat him on the bench near us and dd stayed on..minute or two later he was running around as norm again..told mum when she collected last night said he was 'extra' spacy/dreamy today, to just keep an eye..they arrive this morn, mum says her ds still not 'himself' but no symtoms..i ask if hes been sick or bad stomache, no nothing..BUT ..she has given him neorofen(why if there are no symotoms, this is for fever/illness etc?)
so mindee sits quietly playing with dd and other m mindee, at 10.30 we get ready to go out..all dressed by 10.45, i go to get coat on and dd shouts xx is being sick..mindee throwing up all over!..clean him up, same again..calm him down, take temp 40 degrees!, strip him off to t-shirt and trousers, put wet flannel on his head give him sips of cold water..ring mum and ring nhs direct, they are concerned, tkae him to gp immediatly if he becomes even more unresponsive(he is literally dropping to sleep and floppy at this point!) she has to cll ambulance!!!
mum keeps asking ME what to do!..so i say take to docs NOW, dont ring just turn up and get him seen..so off they go.

problem is, they keep asking him hes had head njury last few days and i know he hasnt with me, but am worried when he said he was dizzy on roundabout that he might have hurt his neck???..he didnt say he had he was literally just dizzy like anyone would be getting off a roundabout(dd was same when she eventually got off)..but just want to rule out he couldnt have suffered a 'head injury' by going on this???

mum is texting me once her ds is seen..fngers crossed hes ok, poor little mite, he was just floppy and wimpering

Rose, don't worry about things so much. Going on roundabouts is perfectly normal, and being dissy afterwards is often a reason why children like it.
You say "extra spacey" so that means that previously he has been "spacey", so something could have been affecting his brain for many months, if not years.
At this stage you just don't know... with luck his mum will have taken him to the GP and the GP will have checked him over and if necessary referred to a specialist.

Question for you all... do you get too attached to the children you care for? And how do you know when you have become too attached?

nannynick, yes, I do become attached to some of my minded children, very much so, so much that it hurts when I 'lose' them - but that is invariably when they have left because the parent and I have not seen eye to eye about something.

Others that move on, I keep in touch with, and still have a special bond with a 14 year old boy that I had from 12 weeks until he was 7.6 years old

I vowed 7 years ago not to get too attached to the children I look after, but then thought, if I feel that way, I shouldn't be doing this job.

Some you get more fond of than others, those that you have had from tiny and full time, and for many years as they become part of my family and my DH is very fond of one or two in particular as they remind us so much of when our DD was little.

Some you just can't love, but it doesn't stop you being affectionate with them as all children need love and cuddles.

LOL Nick was your last Q for me

Any-hoo..the mum has just text me, mindee has infection in his glands(does this not mean tonsilitus??), hes resting now and the medised i gave him when mum came has brought down his temppoor thing..plenty of fluids and rest said doc!

Vary attached to the point of resenting it when they leave me

But I keep it under raps and try and behave

To look after a child long term or frequently you do form a bond tho' there have been a few I did not bond with - I find them the saddest of all because I don't understand why I don't bond

glad thats not jsut me then!..my very first mindee i had no bond with..when she left...i sobbed my heart out!!!????

I get very attahed, but not too attached,iyswim. Its a weird thing actually. I seemed to know when it was my turn to be the mother figure and when not. I absolutely adored one of mine, more so than others. She just really made an impression on my and my families life. Could't stop kissing her everytime she was with me, hugged her really tight the last few weeks etc. But when I went to her house for her birthday, I didn't do any of those things. I'm not explaining myself very well! I think what I mean is, that my mindees, were, at the end of the day, my job, so I loved them to peices, but knew they were only ever on loan and always had that in the back of my mind.

Glad your mindee is OK Rose.

I have just finished for the weekend and have tidied the toys away, now have to remember to collect DD as she doesn't have dance after school today.

Rose - glad nothing bad is wrong with mindee.

thanks girls, i know i was flapping over nothing but you know when you think oh god he was all wobbly/floppy..is it something ive done!

I had one that chewed a red crayon once and he swallowed a bit, before I could fish it all out of his month. He was only 2, I think. I told his mum and we had a laugh about it, then the following day she called me to ask what crayons they were, because he had been really ill in the night and the doctor wanted to know! I was horrified! I paniced, worried, paced, etc. Phoned or txt every couple of hours, then she called me to say the rest of the family also now had sickness, so I wasn't to worry!

rose so glad everythings ok now - i think the mum knew he was ill or she wouldn't have given him nurofen - naughty.

nick yes i do get very attached to some mindees and others i don't bond with , when my 1st mindee was leaving(4 weeks notice) i was very depressed and there were tears(i really don't do crying normally) but we're still very friendly in fact the family is coming over in a minute to visit
with the children i don't bond with i feel guilty and feel i shouldn't be minding them really but i'm fair and affectionate and loving to them i just don't feel it

oh hi everyone!!!

yeah i also believe she KNEW he was already ill, you dont give neuorfen if theyre 'just not right'..its very strong adn TBH my dd cant take it is makes her immediatly sick!
I CANT BELEIVE why some parents just want to drop them off and run, her ds has been unwell for 2 days inc today..he was not right yesterday when we came home early..por little thing, he was just dropping and doc hasnt even give anti b, just told her calpol and plenty of fluids!

It is good to hear that I am not alone in becoming very attached to children I care for. It has been a hard week, I had to make a hard decision. Having made the decision, I'm feeling very down... keep thinking if it was the right choice, the right time. It's easier when a family decides they don't need you any more... than when you decide that it's best to move on.