CM club - do any of you live in/work from a rented house?

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Not been around for a few weeks cos had a few problems!
Basically found out my dh has been having an affair since Dec and as a result we are separating (his choice not mine). I have been trying to deal with the emotional side (not easy, can't eat, can't sleep)but now having to think of the practical.
My h is still living in our home with me and 2 dc (in our son's bedroom), only solution seems for us to sell our house and both go into rented accomodation. I have phoned a couple of rental agents and they said they do not think it will be a problem for me to still carry on childminding in a rented house although it will be up to the indivdual landlord. Just wondered if anyone here rents and if it had been any problem?

I have so much to think about but one of my biggest concerns is that I still have to be able to work.

OMG, I'm sooooo sorry Lots of big {{{hugs}}} for you, can't imagine what you must be going through?!

In answer to your question, I used to part rent (shared ownership with council scheme) and just needed to get permission from the council in writing to cover me, as the lease said no running business without permission.

I think it depends on landlords tbh.

I really hope you come through this ok hun xxx

Thanks looney, it has been really difficult during the past few weeks, my emotions have been all over the place. One minute I want to hit him over the head with a frying pan, the next I just want him to cuddle me and tell me he has made a big mistake.

I just need to start thinking about the next step really, but I am not going to rush into anything although he wants us to put the house on the market asap so he can move and have the freedom to do as he pleases but he can't afford to rent anywhere and pay the mortgage and we have quite a bit of equity in the house so he is keen to keep paying everything. My priority is my 2 dc and I need to make the right decisions for them.

This is my second marriage (I was married for 13 years 1st time and 6 years this time although we have been together for 9 years) and my first h had an affair with my best friend. Life is just not fair.

That's the pits, to have this happen twice I'm so sorry and on your behalf. So he's not even trying to make it up to you, this happened to JellyJelly just before she was due to marry her dp. MEN!

Must go now but will quickly put a link in the staff room in case any others can help.

More {{{hugs}}} xxx

FO, chin up my babe, I had the same, thought my life would never work out.

Two marriages the 1st one violent, the second one had aaffair with the babysitter, just as our DD died and DM died.

11 yeasr ago met DH, couldn't ask for a more lovely man (and he is 10 yeasr younger )

I know this wont help you at the moment, but if you need to talk I'm here ([email protected])

Thanks for the replies.

No looney, he just wants out and says that he wants to live by himself. We have lived together for 8 years and has been the most fantastic partner/dad in that time and we have had some really good times. This was such a shock as I thought we were happy. He says he loves her and it has made him realise his feelings for me have changed, says he loves me but is not in love with me (whatever that means).

Thanks shoshe, may take you up on that.

Oh feelingold that is crappy of him and for you.

LT is right it is down to the landlord, so make that your first question when calling round. All here for you {hugs} life is not fair but you will get through this.

I rent and childmind - my current landlord has no problem with it but then he's been great about most things. I have been looking at moving to a bigger place and always mention this when I ask about a property. Most landlords seem fine with it, some need a little convincing and a couple (like the landlord of a place I put my deposit on recently) turn round and tell you they want a 'proper family' not a self employed single mum like myself

Chickenmama - that is awful and just the kind of reaction I am scared of.

I am dreading this whole process, this is why I am trying to gather as much info as I can before we actually put our home on the market. I am trying to just get my head round everything at the moment. Been to the C.A.B. to find out about benefits and have an appointment soon with their solicitor and am not going to do anything until I have seen her.

Anyone else??