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Childcare issues and changes

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Janekir · 07/02/2024 23:28

My ex did a a lot of damage last year and blamed me and accused me of being and alcoholic. He said the kids wanted 50/50 care which wasn't the case. Since this, a world of hurt and turmoil has happened. My son is going 50/50 (against our court order). Our daughter then refused for months. I managed to get her to go again but she refuses midweek over nights now (again not in our order).
She is recording her and his car journeys home and it's sickening. He is pressuring her to stay with him and say that he's busy earlier so he want the bedtime to have special time.

In this time and the fact that he has told the kids he will never speak to me again, I received and email this morning from him. He was asking me to swap a weekend so he could go to a golfing weekend on Easter weekend (his weekend).

Am I over thinking or is he taking the totally biscuit? Advice gratefully appreciated from both sides please as it always helps. Thank you

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DustyLee123 · 08/02/2024 07:17

How old are the kids?

Janekir · 08/02/2024 07:40

12 and nearly 14

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DustyLee123 · 08/02/2024 08:20

So they are old enough to know their own minds and make their own choices. Would I swap the weekend? Yes, if it didn’t cause me to change my own plans, as long as he knows that you won’t always be able to be so accommodating.
Id say not to bad mouth or stress about him in any way in front of the kids, be calm and a safe space for the kids to come back to. And let them know that they have choices in what they do.

Janekir · 08/02/2024 11:20

I can't change weekends he only ever contacts to change things to benefit him. He's been badmouthing me to the kids for a long time. He has damaged them and continues to makes them feel bad. My daughter won't stay in the week anymore and he is pushing and pushing and pushing her to have 50/50, she doesn't want more, she's actually not going as much. She loves him dearly but she comes back upset and is relieved to be away from his questioning and pushing

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