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christmas bonuses

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hatterselfamerrymerrychristmas · 22/12/2004 16:46

Aargh. It?s not letting me post properly and I need a quick response. How much Christmas bonus for a 3-day a week nanny who brings her own girl, in SW London? Gets paid £65 net a day and will get rise in Jan

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MistltAeroAndWine · 22/12/2004 16:56

I got £50 from the family worked for (over 10 years ago now) hatter, and was earning about £45 a day then if that's any help. I was very grateful and they bought me a decent Xmas pressie too, so I guess a days pay or just over would be fair enough.


MistltAeroAndWine · 22/12/2004 16:59

Actualy, I didn't have children then, and left for another job in a nursery, but always had contact (and still do now), so when I left nursery to start my family, I went back to do their school run and after school care with my ds1 in tow.


hatterselfamerrymerrychristmas · 22/12/2004 17:00

have bought a very token pressie - it's quite nice - a vase but only cost a tenner. so was thinking about quite a big bonus

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MistltAeroAndWine · 22/12/2004 17:07

I'm sure your nanny will appreciate that a lot esp as she has a little one of her own.


ssd · 22/12/2004 18:46

I think giving your nanny a bonus is a very kind idea.

I'm a childminder and we don't get "bonus's", although one nice family gave me choccy's and smellies .

Actually, I wonder if any c/mders on here DO get a bonus???????


Tinker · 22/12/2004 18:59

Don't give my childminder a bonus but always buy her a present at Christams and at start of summer hols.


virginbonkerz · 22/12/2004 19:02

i got paid my full weekly rate even though ive had 2 days off this week as holiday (which i dont get paid for!) also got loads of likle pressies and some home maed mince pies!


binkie · 22/12/2004 19:34

Illuminating thread here

I think we will give our M-F full-time nanny £100, plus presents to the value of maybe another £50ish - but she's only been with us since beginning of Sept, it would be more if it were a thank you for a whole year - but couldn't stretch to 1-3 weeks wages!! (see thread)

I usually do "proper" bonuses on the anniversary of taking the job, if continuing for another year.


flea · 22/12/2004 20:49

I give my childminder a weeks pay as a bonus : she minds my two for three days a week.
So tomorrow I will pay her for this week/for next week - it being Christmas and she gets paid for that week and then I give her another week also as a present.
When I have to hand over 500 Euro it feels like a lot but she is the most amazing childminder and worth her weight in gold.


CountessDingDongDrac · 22/12/2004 20:51

I give everyone a week's wages


KatieMaChristmas · 22/12/2004 21:07

Last year I got £50 from one of my Mums...this year i appear to have a tin....nice but..

I gave my 2 assistants 2/3rds of their weekly wage and a present

But chocolates seem to be the present of choice from most mums and a few bought for DD rather than me


lisalisa · 23/12/2004 14:08

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Enideepmidwinter · 23/12/2004 14:10

I gave J (she comes to the house four half days a week) £50, but she doesnt get any pay for the days she doesnt work so I felt it was the least I could do over Xmas.


binkie · 23/12/2004 14:14

lisalisa, yes I would say you should get her a present for when she comes back - since she's only been with a short time, I would go for smallish "thought" present, along lines of nice bottle of wine or pampering stuff. (If she's nice, she'll probably bring back little tokens for the children, so good to be prepared with reciprocal things.)

How are things going? I know you have had some difficult times with her predecessors.


lisalisa · 23/12/2004 14:32

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ssd · 23/12/2004 16:41

lisalisa, I'm sorry to be so nosey, but do you have a nanny and an au pair? Do they do different jobs? I'm just curious


oxocube · 23/12/2004 17:56

Different job but can I ask about cleaner's xmas presents? Ours has only been cleaning for us for a month (my first cleaner!) and she made it clear in a not so subtle way today that she would prefer cash to a pressie!!(actually she said, out of the blue, xxxx (my friend) gave me a lovely xmas present today - money to buy something for myself). I almost had to pick myself up from the floor for the bare faced cheek but she is a very straight talking woman . Anyway, I have given her a nice box of chocs and Eu25 - we pay her Eu 40 p.w. Have I been stingy?


yuletide · 23/12/2004 21:12

Our Au Pair went home for three weeks we sent her home with lots of nice pressies for her and her family. she's turned out to be a nice girl but we find it strange that she never acknowledges any of the childrens brithdays or christmas, we would never expect anything more than a birthday card or a nice acknowledgment.


Uwila · 24/12/2004 12:02

Hi Lisalisa, so glad to hear that things are working out for you. I've been wondering how it was going. Sorry I haven't bothered to ask until someone else brought it up.

Yes, Lisalisa has a nanny AND an au pair...

Oh, and I sooooo agree with your point that "nanny experience" doesn't always equate to better nanny.

BAck to the topic... well, our funds are rather tight this year. We bought her a DVD player for her room, but didn't give an actualy bonus.

If I had a cleaner (something I dream about often!) who put in a plug for cash, she'd be lucky to get anything. It is rude for ANYONE to ask for something specific. Where are people's manners? If someone buys you a gift, you should just say thankyou and smile.


lisalisa · 04/01/2005 11:55

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beachyhead · 04/01/2005 12:10

Pay rise and a digital radio for the nanny (worth about 80 quid), but I pay out a bonus when I get my bonus. Cleaner got 40 quid M&S vouchers and babysitter got a bottle of champagne...... I probably owe the nanny more, but was very hassled before Xmas and will compensate on her bonus (which will probably be 150 quid).


KatieMac · 04/01/2005 17:41

I now have 16 (yes 16)boxes of biscuits/chocolates..... Hmmm - obviously no-one thinks I'm over weight... or do they think I'm that big I must eat all day


kangasantamummy · 04/01/2005 17:50

As I only have one mindee I got a huge box of shortbread from M & S

I am not bothered about not having money as a bonus but to the parents who do get one with their job

why do they NOT want to give one to their childminder or nanny??????


kangasantamummy · 04/01/2005 17:51

@ KMc chocs/biscuits


SofiaAmes · 04/01/2005 22:47

I give the cleaner a week's wages.

I give the childminder (who has looked after both of mine since they were babies) a carefully thought out gift every year that costs around £40-£60. I am fairly sure that she prefers the thought and care that goes into the present, to receiving the equivalent (or even more) in money.

Gave ds's afterschool carers a gift each from the usa as they are really wonderful to him.

I didn't give the nanny anything as she didn't even bother to give my children a birthday card (forget about a gift) on their birthdays and she is supposedly our friend as well as their nanny.

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