My ex partner and I broke up 6 years ago, we have a 6 year old daughter together. The child arrangement has always been he has her every other weekend from Friday evening to Sunday evening and once in the week and would drop her to school. The arrangement we had changed as he didn't want to commit to take her to her clubs/hobbies. This then changed to weekend access only, Friday - Sunday. He then again refused to take her to her club/hobbies again so the agreement changed to Saturday late morning to Sunday evening (I was then responsible to take her to her club/hobby on a Saturday morning. He refuses to take her to birthday parties and she has said she wants to stay at home with me when she is invited to a birthday party as she wants to go to them and knows I will take her. He is really making our lives quite difficult. He then changed his commitments back to Friday - Sunday as her gymnastics club has changed to a Friday evening after school. I take her to gymnastics he collects her from gymnastics.
Recently he has quit his job, gave me no noticed and gave me the reasons being he wants to start his own business and work on himself. This has now left me £280 down a month as he no longer pays child maintenance and claims universal credit. I work part time and my new partner works full time , we have a 1 year old daughter together. It has been 5 months since he quit his job and I have asked when he is returning to work or if he could get a part time job to help towards financially providing for his daughter. He has refused and will not give me a reason as to why he can't work a part time job. (I believe he has signed himself off of work for mental health reasons. He is currently on bail for harassing a number of young women, previously in court for rape (where he was found not guilty. Prior to this arrested for soliciting and has taken our daughter from me and not returned her which I have had to then get CAFCASS involved so he returned her back home). I have now asked my ex partner to collect our daughter from school on a Friday and drop her to school on a Monday morning. He has no work commitments so couldn't see why he wouldn't be able to do this. I have had to get a 2nd job to make up for the loss of maintenance, on a Friday and a Monday. He has refused to help out and have her more so I can work and is now refusing to see our daughter until he has taken legal advice and taken me to court. This has now put extra stress on me and my family, I have had to find childcare after school for my 6 year old daughter so I can work. My 6 year old does not understand why her dad is not seeing her, she rings him weekly to speak to him and has not told her or me why he will no longer see her. He has completely dropped all his commitments with her, no longer financially provides for her and is now not seeing her. As he is not working he will get legal aid and I will not. So I was wondering if someone could advise of what the likeliness this is of going to court. I have emails from him refusing to see her whilst he gets legal advice, I am trying to ensure they see each other and have a relationship however I need to work and I can not afford to keep sending her to childcare because he will not collect her from school and take her to gymnastics. This is also what she wants, she wants to spend more time with him. I am completely at a loss and the stress of all of this is affecting my mental health massively. Please can someone advise me on what I can do. Thank you